Relationship falling apart.... help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2011
Relationship falling apart.... help!
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Tue, 11-15-2011 - 3:09pm

My 2 kids and I moved in with my fiance at the end of the summer.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 4:53pm

hang in there, it hasn;t been that long. Would he cnsider counseling?

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 6:41am
I have read many times that it is very hard to combine houses and that counseling is a good idea. Maybe he will go with you....

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-22-2011
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 8:32am

Thanks for the support.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 10:05am

That is what scares me about ever living with SO, he is 50 and set in his ways, on top of being ex military. But I would still like to try some day :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 11:13am

I do not think that people realize how difficult it is to blend 2 families--everybody has their own preferred way of doing things, and not like it's right or wrong but it's just a huge change.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2010
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 7:38am

Counseling...definitely.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2010
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 1:28pm

I agree that counseling would be a great idea.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2010
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 4:59pm

Music,

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
Fri, 11-18-2011 - 10:32am
I would also add that "huge renovations" is a HUGE stressor to ANYONE----and even worse if it's "do it yourself" I think

We had major renovations here with a GOOD builder, etc.....and it was only SO and myself, and we get along fine------and I still felt like tearing my hair out!

Is this a "new to both of you" house, or is one moved into the others? Also, kids arent going to be as understanding , and honestly, they didnt ask for the change, so they certainly have less vested in having a reason to need to do all of this that involves change and compromise........if the kids are older, and it's severe, you could look at living separate quarters til the kids are grown, then getting an "empty nest" smaller place for the two of you, and it's only you two having to compromise----the kids are only "visiting".....
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2011
Thu, 11-24-2011 - 1:05pm

Hi

It sounds like a lot is going on in your life.