That "safe" place, should be your home.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2007
That "safe" place, should be your home.
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Tue, 02-08-2011 - 2:01pm

Before you get remarried or move in, you should build a foundation where your home is your safe place.

Pamela


The choices we make in thought word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

Great post Pam.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2007

Liz as you know my first husband suffers from depression, and I had post

Pamela


The choices we make in thought word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Great post, Pam. I struggled to do that even when I was single. I didn't even want to be around my own kids. It was horrbile. I was what is called "stark raving sober"

All of you that know me here, know my solution was in the 12-steps. But I also sought professional help with my parenting.

It is still a work in progress, but I do the best I can on any given day.

As far as R with SO, it is also a work in progress. Of course in hind sight I wish I would have done things differently, but I didn't. I can't un-do it. If whether by breakup or death I end up single again, chances are slim to none I will have another man move in with me just for the sake of living together while my DD is still at home.

Just taking it a day at a time...
Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2007

The thing about us former addicts, is that at some point along the way we have learned to take responsibility for what we have done.

Pamela


The choices we make in thought word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2004

This is the reason I lurk here more then being a poster.

I learned my lesson of my first marriage, got strong and walked in to the new marriage