Should I stay or go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Should I stay or go?
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Wed, 03-16-2011 - 3:27pm

I have been married for almost 4 years and we have a 2 year old daughter.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 4:31pm

Was this posted on the wrong page by mistake?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 6:44pm

It is my second marriage...and perhaps a bit of the reason why I hesitate to divorce...34 and twice divorced isn't exactly how I pictured it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2008
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 10:38am

Crossroadz - I'm not of the mindset that people should stay together solely for the children's sakes.




iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 10:48am

Ok, now I understand.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 1:54pm

My wonderful hair stylist is 34 and divorced twice with three kids among two men.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 2:43pm

Even though I had two kids with my first DH, I was separated from my second DH at 34 when our DD was only 2-1/2.

Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 8:48pm

Thank you all for the replies...I appreciate everyones' words and perspective.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2007
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 9:21pm
If you are thinking of leaving, I would not leave your job. Unless you are in a very unique situation, the majority of men dislike paying CS and alimony and do not make it easy for you to stay home and expect you to support yourself if you divorce them. IOW majority of divorced moms have to work at least part time and are lucky if they only have to work part time.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 10:05pm

I'm not leaving my job...the reference to being a SAHM was only in the context of it being an option in my current marriage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2010
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 10:30am
crossroadz wrote:

It is my second marriage...and perhaps a bit of the reason why I hesitate to divorce...34 and twice divorced isn't exactly how I pictured it.

Twice divorced isn't good, but it does look better than the alternative here.

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