Simple yet so complicated....Need your advice all
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|Mon, 09-05-2011 - 3:32am|
I am 36 and madly confused right now due to two major reasons: 1. I have 2 boys who I love the most and wants me to go back to my-ex 2. Met the love of my life but its complicated cause she has 2 kids and relying too much on me supporting them.
Ok so let me talk about my ex and our boys..We were in a relationship for 16 years (Married 10 years) and have 2 beautiful boys. I have always loved my wife but recent years It went downhill and realized that she was never an affectionate person and that she has a very poor communication. So when we fight, she gives me verbal abuse, throwing things and refuse to resolve the issue, packs her bags and leave for few days..and comes back pretending nothing ever happened. So after 2 years of this..I called it quits and now we've been separated for 11 months. Another month I can file for a divorce, but seeing the boys..it made me felt so guilty. She's not that bad overall, but I just dont think she will change.
On second note, I have RE-MET with a girl of my dream whom we've been friends back in 1997-1999. We knew we liked each other back then, but nothing ever eventuated because she went overseas and I didnt think there was hope. Not until 2000, when she came back and found out I was married so she went back to her place of origin and lived her life, married and had 2 kids. This may sound familiar, but in 2010 through Facebook and blackberry messenger (chat) we found each other again and realized we had an unfinished business. Funny thing is that the issue I went through during marriage and hers is exactly mirrored.So obviously we were there and supported each other.