Stepdog with Attachment Disorder
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|Mon, 08-09-2010 - 2:37pm|
So after six weeks, the stepdog finally has returned to his mommy - my DH's ex-W and I am soooo happy.
I had agreed to take on the pooch for a week while his wife went for surgery in early July. Well lo and behold, she felt too weak to take doggie back so I became the stepmom to DSD. At first it wasn't so bad - my DH would walk him and I would feed him repulsive doggy food once a day and DH would handle the other feeding. Then DH got busy at work as did I - but he works outside the house--I work at home. So the dog would sit literally underneath my feet while I worked every day.
Two weeks ago, my grandson - a one-year old came for an extended visit. DSD was jealous - growling at the baby, jumping on me when I diapered him, humping me when I would read to my grandson, standing near me constantly. DH was thrilled that stepdog and I had "bonded" but the more clingy the dog got, the more angry I got. His ex-W - frail damsel that she is - a month after surgery - was afraid the doggy would get under HER feet so she refused to take him back.
Well, this week I'm traveling for business, so I spoke to my stepdaughter and told her to tell her mom the dog has to go home. I knew if I left it to DH the message would not get delivered. Since I wouldn't be there (for doggie to torture) and he can't be left home alone for hours at a time while my husband works, there was no choice - bio mom had to take him back. Last night my stepdaughter took the dog home.
For the first time in six weeks, there was no dog watching me undress at night, no dog making his bed next to our bed, no dog laying on the bathroom floor, eying me while I peed, no dog following me upstairs, downstairs, crying at the door when I ran across the street, or laying under my feet while I worked. My husband was sad - he loves the dog - and I guess was hoping I would take him on permanently. But I have never felt such an albatross being lifted before - amazing!