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|Mon, 09-06-2010 - 5:41am|
I guess I'm a very straight person. I can have a glass of wine or a bottle of beer and that is just fine. Sometimes I can have 2 glasses. But usually that makes me tired so I don't.
Tonight my husband was downstairs (I thought) bonding with my stepson. I absented myself, as I'm wont to do these days because the child obviously wants his father's undivided attention and he is usually rude to me. No biggie.
But I woke up at 3 am and my husband wasn't next to me in bed. I went back to sleep then woke up at 5 am. He was asleep on the couch. I woke him and asked him why he didn't come to bed. He said he had too much wine and didn't feel like he could make it up the steps.
First of all I'm pretty mad, because we have only been married 4 mos and have never spent the night apart unless one of us was traveling on business. Secondly, I'm worried. I've noticed that my husband disappears sometimes in the evening and I find empty beer bottles. He once confessed to smoking pot occasionally by himself. I suspected something was up that night cause he was acting really silly - not at all normal for him.
I suspect that he has a substance abuse problem. Does anyone here have any experience dealing with this? I want to confront him and basically say if he doesn't get help with it, I won't stick around.
I know his ex is narcotic addicted and clinically depressed and I once heard him calling in a prescription for her and I questioned him about it. He's a pediatrician and should NOT be doing that. He said her doctor was on vacation and she had just had surgery so she needed the pills.
Advice from anyone who is schooled in the area of substance abuse is much appreciated.