Terrified of the end
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|Wed, 02-22-2012 - 10:06pm|
This is my first marriage after my second engagement, and hubby's second marriage. We will be married 8 years in July and there are some signs that our relationship is in serious trouble. I recenty read that "true love" is feeling that feeling when you have a crush on someone for more than 4 months. I can honestly say that I felt it for about 6-7 years.
The problems started around the time that our third daughter was born and the intimacy went. In between our third and fourth children we were only intimate for a number of times that can be counted on one hand. Then with the birth of our fourth child, out went the romance. We used to work on our relationship with dates at LEAST once a month. That didn't necessarily have to lead to sex, but just being together, away from the kids was enough to keep us going.
When I brought these issues up with my husband he expressed regret, that he just can't handle life with 4 kids. Our youngest was a surprise, though we always talked about the possibility of having more children and weren't being that careful (even though there were few occasions in need of being careful). He says that he feels he doesn't have enough energy anymore and when I bug him after he comes home and I want to cuddle and watch TV, he just wants to sleep. In the weekends, he sleeps in and often skips church on Sundays to do so in a "quiet house."