Terrified I'm going to screw it up this time, too!

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Terrified I'm going to screw it up this time, too!
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Sat, 03-24-2012 - 2:35am

Hello nice people!

i used to hang out at "The Single Life" Board but, well, a lot has changed.

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Registered: 01-13-2010

I love your post!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008

Hi Marina;

Its me free... (lol)

You know after I read your post here I couldnt help think that you are in love with the idea of being in love and how can you differentiate the real love from infatuation?? If its real love then you have nothing to worry about and it will work itself out .. If its not real then time will tell and it wont work out. Its that simple..

Just a thought for you if it makes any sense...

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011

Thank you for your amazing response, StartingOver2010.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011

Well, Free, as you know, I had given up on the male part of the population some months ago.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008

Then you go girl sista and dont screw up .. I know what you mean though. I have messed up many relationships and come to find out it might be because I have ADHD... but that is a long story.

See you later alligator...

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Welcome!

Although it is true that we have to be cautious if their D is not final, there are some people who have truly "checked out" of their M long before the D and are able to move on. Do be mindful that he may get a little weird on you when it is final. Still a bit of a mourning process.

Ask yourself "would I want to be this guys friend?" If yes, you can't go wrong, regardless of what the future holds.

Look forward to you participating on the board.
Serenity
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Registered: 02-26-2011

Thank you, Serenity!

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Mariana how exciting!!!!

I'm engaged to be married this summer. I would say date 2-3 years and don't live together during this time. You want to get the full picture before making any big steps. We dated for just about 3 years and then we got engaged. I only moved in after the engagement. We'll be getting married just after 4 years of dating.

We were on the same page with where the relationship was going and want we wanted at about 1.5 years in, but did not make any moves for another 1.5 years. I maybe brought up the timeline every 6 months just to see if we're still on the same page. It really all worked out as we talked! Amazing!
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Registered: 09-21-2011

Yea Marina!!!! Go for it. The divorce thing means nothing, my SO divorce wasn;t final until last month, but he was over it long before that. TO him, it was a technicality and had no bearing on his life. I was the same way with mine.

I know what you mean about that crazy in love feeling, like being a teenager except a whole lot smarter this time around.

What I don;t understand is the waiting for the physical relationship. I was 47 when I met SO (it was on line). I jumped his bones the first the time we actually met in person (okay, I waited until after he bought me dinner and we shot a few games of pool). My thinking was, I really liked him, but if the sex wasn't good,

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