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Registered: 01-05-2004
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 4:44pm
Thanks all for the feedback!

Every relationship is different and I'm working to change my thinking or overcome the issues that really are non-issues. There are 2 people in this relationship though, and we still have 25 days left in this decision making process.

Last night was a new hiccup. He was feeling poorly and one of his girls has MRSA, so he took everyone to the ER. I showed up and ended up in the waiting room forever. Finally I just asked to go back and they let me.

Turns out it wasn't anything serious for the kids - but this put 2 new big stressors on him.
It was $100/each for the ER co-pay. That's a $400 evening.
His blood sugar was at 399!
He's diabetic and has basically been ignoring it for over a year now. I was able to be there and convey (from a loving place) that I was very concerned about his health, that he needed to take care of himself to be around for his kids, etc. That I know it's hard, but if he wants some help, that's what I'm here for. I got the "I know" that I've heard a hundred times before - and then this morning he gets up too late to check his blood sugar. (He was so stressed he didn't go to bed until around 1am - so he is on about 5 hrs of sleep.) It's his first day back to work in a week and it's been a stressful day.

So, instead of going over there and throwing away all the soda and other non-diabetic friendly food, I opted to take a more loving approach.

I inivted him over to dinner (w/ the family) this week. I'll make a diabetic friendly, budget friendly, diabetic friendly dinner and send them home w/ left overs and some yummy meal ideas for the future. Maybe with some encouragement he won't rely so much on rice or pasta or white bread.

- J. Darling

The hands that hold my heart...


- J. Darling

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