Thought for the Day

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Registered: 11-20-2008
Thought for the Day
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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 2:47pm

From Open Your Mind, Open Your Life; A little Book of Eastern Wisdom


What would your current frustrations look like from the vantage point of the final days of your life?


I read this years ago, when I first started reading about mindfulness meditation.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 4:57pm

Wow, Pam...how insightful!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2008
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 9:05am

Hi!

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 08-07-2006
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 9:48am

"What would your current frustrations look like from the vantage point of the final days of your life?"

Hi Pam! I think my current frustrations will look one way or the other depending on if I MARRY the guy or not!

I am just so glad we are not JUMPING into marriage - and that I have not moved in with him.

We have dated a year now, and we're planning to date another year - and ... (ahem) I know I can hold him off for 2 more years if I need too! He knows I am very reticent to re-marry, so I'm just really glad we are taking it slow!!!

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Registered: 10-04-2006
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 11:40am

So true, so true. I'd say my perspective on life has changed a lot over the past handful of years. Although I have not experienced a major loss, I know I will one day. My Dad has lung cancer and has been dealing with it for 6.5 years now. Only recently has he been physically declining and that scares me a lot. I dread every call from my brother a mom. Afraid that it'll be the news. Sigh.

For example. This weekend was my annual company picnic lunch. I get ragged on by co-workers about WHY I DIDN'T go. And in my mind, I am thinking that I see everyone 40+ hours a week. I barely see my husband that much. I have better things to do with my time than to spend it visiting co-workers who, honestly, are not my "after work friends". It's just not important for me to go. Yet, I have to deal with the aftermath of it later today. Maybe I should lie and tell them I was visiting with my Dad who's health is failing. Sheesh. Maybe they'd shut up and realize there are WAY more important things in life than a company picnic.

I try to do things that mean something in my life. Or will make my life more fulfilling. Spending time with 98% of my co-workers which whom I could care less about....not a priority. If I went, it'd be for a very select few. Eh.

I'm trying to make my life matter. And doing things that matter TO ME. So, like you said, if I am to die in the next few days, I wouldn't regret my actions.

 





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