Unkind comments about other women ...
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|Wed, 03-10-2010 - 11:25pm|
Alrighty - so here's the stuff: :-) I am divorced and dating a very nice man - good father, nice man. I'd say we're fairly serious. We are dating exclusively and have been for about 9 months or so. He has 3 kids. The kids are great. So far so good - there is just ONE THING that sort of bothers me about him ...
He's VERY sweet - but he seems to make (what I consider to be) rude comments about people who are OVERWEIGHT. And he also makes (what I consider to be) racial comments about ... well, I won't say which racial groups - but ... they are stereotypical - and I feel they are very unenlightened!
My ex-husband was a terrible drunk - but he NEVER commented on race or weight! I could have weighed 300 pounds, and he would not have cared. In fact, he would have LIKED it if I ate more! In fact, his new squeeze is significantly larger than I. He truly did not care about weight. So ... this is new for me. I am not overweight, but ... I'm not super-willowy either. I'm sort of just average to thin. But sometimes I gain a few, you know?
This just worries me. Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I put on 5 to 8 pounds. And then usually I just start running or watching it - and I can take it off, but it scares me to hear him comment about other women and their "rolls." Who CARES about a few extra pounds? He always tells me I'm thin and athletic - so I do think he really likes my body - but I guess I just don't know why he's so critical about women's bodies. Is this a HUGE red flag? Is it just a minor glitch? Is it just something sort of yucky about an otherwise wonderful man? Certainly this is FAR better than being married to a drunk, you know?
I don't know if this is a deal-breaker or not?