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|Tue, 01-08-2013 - 9:02pm|
Hi again everyone!
I've posted here before about my DF and I and several issues we were having regarding getting married and blending families. Well, I've had a feeling for quite awhile now that it just wasn't going to work out. Two of our kids don't get along (mine is 8 and his is 12) both boys and it always happened that my son was the one getting beat on, but his son was never responsible. He would say my son "provoked" him.
Anyway, that's just one issue. I've noticed that he loses his temper often with his boys and doesn't really treat people like wait staff or people that work for him with a lot of respect.
He also has made me feel quite insignificant at times while talking over me, ignoring me etc. when we are around other people. I think I posted about this before, but when we first met, he was still going to his ex wife's every night to see the kids and refused to take her pictures down at his house and office. I told him how it made me feel, but it took several months to get him to take the pictures down.
The point is, for several reasons, I felt in my heart it wasn't going to work out. My kids didn't understand why they would have to move and change schools (he was unwilling to move himself.) and I decided I was going to make them when his kids had to change nothing.
So I broke off our engagement and he is absolutely devastated. He doesn't understand why and will not stop calling, texting, etc. He even messaged my mother and told her he would do anything for me, would change etc.
Even though I feel it's the best decision for me and my kids, it is so hard. We did everything together and it's so hard letting go. I go from crying, to anger in the blink of an eye.
I guess I just needed to vent but any advice is appreciated!