What does intimacy mean to you?
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|Thu, 03-14-2013 - 4:42pm|
I am finding that myself and SO are struggling with what these means to each of us. IMO, he possibly had a somewhat imeshed relationship wiht his xW. They had disfunctional families, and most members have passed away at this point. It was the typical "all we have is eachother" scenario. Family didn't babysit or help with most things you need family for. No dad to help look at cars, no mom to go for advice, etc. etc.
SO feels I am still hanging on to old stuff from my previous marriages, especially regarding the physcial abuse in my first marriage. It has been over 20 years and I have never felt the need to go digging for issues to work on, but SO thinks it is holding me back from being more intimately honest, I guess you could call it, with him. For those of you who don't know me, both xH's were alcholics, second xH also addited to meth. I have been in recovery for over 14 years now.
Not that 1st marriages are immune to this problem, but I think it is compounded with a second, or third marriage.
What are your thoughts?