What is going on here? Your take please!
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|Fri, 04-30-2004 - 1:39pm|
I got this in my latest "Dear Prudence" newsletter. How do you feel about this situation? Is it an affair sort of in the reverse? Or, just a screwed up mess? Something else entirely?
I have been with my live-in boyfriend for about a year now. Before we got together, he was in a relationship for four years. He has remained friends with his ex, even though she is still in love with him. He pretty much bends over backward for her, talks to her almost everyday behind my back, sneaks to go visit her and her family sometimes. And to top that off, he still has her pictures in our house that he refuses to throw away. When I confront him about all of this, he gets PO'd and says that he only does what he does because he feels guilty about breaking off their relationship and tells me that I am overreacting. My question is: What do you think of all this?
This chap is not so much guilty, my dear, as ambivalent. To remain "friends" is one thing; to bend over backward, converse every day on the sly, have photographs become an issue, and annoy you in the bargain is a whole other story. Tell Mr. Vacillating you don't think he's quite over what's-her-name, and you've decided she needs him more than you do. What's going on now is no way to live. Over and out.
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