Who was your Maid of Honor?

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Who was your Maid of Honor?
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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 5:40pm

here's another wedding question: Who was your Maid of Honor?



I'd love for my sister to do it but she lives in another state.... I'm not sure she'd want the responsibility or if she'd travel... My two best friends live in Hawaii and i know they aren't travelling here for a wedding. So... that doesn't leave much options. I suppose there is DF's sister, but i've only met her a couple times. She seems very nice, tho. I have several girls i go out with on "girls night out" but it isn't the same as a best friend/confidante.



I know i'm not at the point that i need to decide yet.... was curious as to what others did.



Loonybunny

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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 6:47pm
What about just having your kids in the wedding? Don't you have an older teenage DD? Actually when my ex remarried, they just had the kids--DS was the "best man" even though he was only about 5, which was a little odd, but DD was about 12 and his DW's DD was 17 so that was a more appropriate age to be the MOH. When I got remarried, my DH wanted his brother to be the best man so I did pick an adult MOH, my best friend from high school to now. But we also had all 3 kids in the wedding party. My DS walked me down the aisle, which was cute.
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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 9:44pm

when I got remarried, my ds (15 at the time) walked me down the aisle.

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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 10:00pm
My sister was my maid of honor in my first wedding. For the second both of my daughters were my maids of honor. They also gave me away.
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Tue, 09-28-2010 - 10:34pm

thanks all. i didn't know a teenage daughter could do it. I thought MOH required too much leg work/responsibility....



DF told me last night, he's already picked out his party... His dad for his best man and then DS16, DS11, and DSS14. That makes 4... So does that mean i'll need to pick 4.... i guess so to make it symetrical.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 8:00am
Being as DH and I planned everything and did most things, there was little for my daughter's to do. And at the time they were 6 and 2. I just thought it was symbolic of the joining of the family if all of us were involved.
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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 9:13am

Since ours was just the small group, DH and I assigned each a 'job'.

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 09-29-2010 - 10:56am
I think when it's not your 1st marriage, you don't really have to do everything "traditionally." We had the 2 girls as bridesmaids and only one usher. Since my DH & I were the ones planning & paying for the wedding, the MOH didn't really do anything except buy a gown & show up. We both already had houses & all our stuff, so it's not like we were having a shower and a bachelorette party would be kind of stupid since we were already living together. As for the gowns, too, since I was having a 40+ yr old MOH and 2 teenage girls who were very different in size & shape (my former DSS is a very tall & large girl w/ red hair while my DD is short and thin w/ brown hair) I told them they could pick any kind of gown they liked as long as it was blue.
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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 7:04pm

It depends how traditional you want to be.

Serenity
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Thu, 09-30-2010 - 7:11pm

I will say though, don't assume these out of state gals won't come.



okay. that's sound like a good point. thanks