Why am I getting this bad of a reaction?
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|Mon, 06-09-2003 - 7:21pm|
Pretty soon afterward, his son came out and that conversation was dropped.
So, his son and I were talking about Father's Day that day and we were plotting a little surprise (cooking him breakfast)...planning what we wanted to get as gifts.
I told him I'd take him shopping on Tuesday and we'd go buy these gifts that we had planned on getting.
So today, I asked my bf if I could take his son shopping on Tuesday or Thursday. He said "sure". Then I asked for his mom's number. He asked what for. I said I needed to ask her to make sure something we were planning was okay...and also, I was planning on letting her know that I was going to take him shopping, so she didn't have to worry about it.
Well he said "Absolutely not". He didn't care so much about what I was going to ask her, he adamantly did not want me to tell her that I had the gift thing take care of. He said I would "cause problems". Why? You would think she would appreciate that I took an interest in her son. And shoot, if she still wants to go out and buy something with him, then so be it (it's not like I want to rob her of the experience), but she doesn't have to...is pretty much all I wanted to say to her.
He raised his voice about this...and he was just so adamant about it, it made me wonder what his deal was. I asked if maybe he had had some sort of conversation with her that would indicate this would be a problem? He said "no". I said "Then why are you so upset about this? It's not like I'm going to be rude about it, I just told you EXACTLY what I'm going to say and how I'm going to say it". He just said "Because I asked you not to do something and you're not listening to me".
What gives? Can anyone shed some light for me here? Is this a bad sign?