Why Marry?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2008
Why Marry?
Sun, 05-08-2011 - 9:37am

So my BF and I are now living together.


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2006
Sun, 05-15-2011 - 8:50am

I am definitely in the DON'T GET MARRIED camp!!! And if you're going to get married again - at least don't take his last name!!!! That was the worst part for me. Having to walk around with his last name. HATED IT! And years later, I still get MAIL with that last name attached to mine! It's awful. I'm hoping our culture will change so that women don't feel they need to take his last name on the 1st marriage in the future!!! Hopefully our daughters will learn from our mistakes!

The last guy I dated said that IF we were to get married (which I barely was considering!!!) that he would want a pre-nuptual agreement. So HOW MUCH SENSE does THAT MAKE??? We pay a lawyer to draw up this legal pre-nuptual document, pay the U.S. Government to get married, then pay AGAIN to untangle the whole mess with a divorce!!! It is madness. I don't even understand the point of marriage.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 11:38am
(((((I don't even understand the point of marriage.)))))

For some it is a spiritual thing and an important part of what they feel God wants man and woman to do. All the material things we have been talking about are secondary.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 1:03am

From a website citing the legal advantages of marriage,

Medical Benefits
  • Visiting your spouse in a hospital intensive care unit or during restricted visiting hours in other parts of a medical facility.
  • Making medical decisions for your spouse if he or she becomes incapacitated and unable to express wishes for treatment.
Death Benefits
  • Consenting to after-death examinations and procedures.
  • Making burial or other final arrangements.

Tax Benefits
  • Filing joint income tax returns with the IRS and state taxing authorities.
  • Creating a "family partnership" under federal tax laws, which allows you to divide business income among family members.
Estate Planning Benefits
  • Inheriting a share of your spouse's estate.
  • Receiving an exemption from both estate taxes and gift taxes for all property you give or leave to your spouse.
  • Creating life estate trusts that are restricted to married couples, including QTIP trusts, QDOT trusts, and marital deduction trusts.
  • Obtaining priority if a conservator needs to be appointed for your spouse -- that is, someone to make financial and/or medical decisions on your spouse's behalf.

There are others (click on LINK for the rest) but I thought the above might be more relevant for your consideration.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 2:53am

And the other side of the coin.


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2007
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 12:58pm

Here, here CD.


The choices we make in thought word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.