So my BF and I are now living together.
I am definitely in the DON'T GET MARRIED camp!!! And if you're going to get married again - at least don't take his last name!!!! That was the worst part for me. Having to walk around with his last name. HATED IT! And years later, I still get MAIL with that last name attached to mine! It's awful. I'm hoping our culture will change so that women don't feel they need to take his last name on the 1st marriage in the future!!! Hopefully our daughters will learn from our mistakes!
The last guy I dated said that IF we were to get married (which I barely was considering!!!) that he would want a pre-nuptual agreement. So HOW MUCH SENSE does THAT MAKE??? We pay a lawyer to draw up this legal pre-nuptual document, pay the U.S. Government to get married, then pay AGAIN to untangle the whole mess with a divorce!!! It is madness. I don't even understand the point of marriage.
From a website citing the legal advantages of marriage,
There are others (click on LINK for the rest) but I thought the above might be more relevant for your consideration.
And the other side of the coin.
Here, here CD.
The choices we make in thought word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.