Will this ever be over?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2008
Will this ever be over?
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 11:21am

It's been soooo long since I've posted!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 11:45am
OK so 2 of the kids are legally adults so are free to go wherever they want. And it doesn't make sense that they would be FB friends and not want to ever meet you--if you at least have some conversations over FB or email, then I doubt that they hate you. And since they are legally divorced by now, then how can the mom dictate where the dad can live or be with? I think it's ridiculous. Of course, she could have painted a very bad picture of you as the "other woman," which could be a reason for them not wanting to be friendly w/ you, or it could be that they wouldn't mind meeting you but feel afraid to incur her wrath if they do (esp. the one still at home). It's a very delicate situation w/ that one. I would say that if your BF is going to let his ex dictate what he does w/ his life and will go along w/ her wishes at your expense, then I think the relationship is doomed. So I think I would tell him that if he's going to buy a condo so his kids can visit him over there, that he might as well stay there full time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-20-2008
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 12:55pm

Hi!

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2008
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:20pm
Thank you both for your thoughts-
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:26pm

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:34pm

maybe thats the cost of how we met.


Well, yes and no.


If you have been lurking at all on this board, you will see that even under 'normal' circumstances this kind of stuff still happens.

Serenity
Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:58pm

Looks like we were typing and posting at the same time.

Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2008
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 3:13pm

you have a point.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2008
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 3:28pm

I feel for you here.




iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2002
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:12pm

So, I see what you are saying, but I think theres more to it- iow he led her to believe he would consider it rather than stand up to her.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2008
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:42pm

WOW!! I can't believe how much better I feel knowing that there are LOTS of people going through similiar things.

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