Ex is going to get an earful !!!!

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Ex is going to get an earful !!!!
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Fri, 05-25-2007 - 2:14pm

I am having problems with my 16 yr old son. He quit school, gets a job and then looses it, just doesn't care about anything and also refuses to pay my dad for the car that g-pa bought to help him out. I have a message into my ex to talk to him about DS. My oldest daughter called me this morning, she works at Walmart and her dad was in there this morning buying some things. He made a comment to her that mom has done such a wonderful job raising you kids, (nice comment right?) and then he said thats why ****(DS) doesn't have a job. I am so tired of his sarcastic remarks. I have put up with them for over 5 years since we divorced. On top of that he never calls to see how the kids are and he totally ignores our 15 year old daughter. She bought a t-shirt for my husband (her stepfather) for Father's day but gave it to him early and it sayd "this is what the greatest dad in the world looks like". DH thought it was great. I don't think her dad will get anything for Father's day and he really doesn't deserve anything from her after the way he treats her.

But when he calls me back tonight he will get an earful and it won't be pretty I can tell you that. He is such an a**hole and I am tired of his crap.

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Registered: 06-18-2003
Sat, 05-26-2007 - 9:17am

It's good to hear the vent is on the EX, and not the Ex wife! No seriously, yesterday I was cleaning the house, prepping for tomorrow's cookout. I was actually washing the windows, and in the process cleaning window sills, from all the built up grime of the winter. I had informed both boys, I would be doing this. So, with the kids gone yesterday, I went into my oldest son's room, and opened the curtains and low and behold, there is a collection of cigarette butts on the sill. He has obviously been smoking at the window (a trick his father use to do when he lived at home). This boy is 19, and of legal smoking age, so when I see him, I will tell him he smokes on the deck and only the deck like B has done ever since moving here. It is the only place allowed.

Ok...drifted off, but here is my point. When his father finds out he is smoking, I get the feeling I will the the blame. I smoked much longer (his father quit smoking cigarettes, but smoked other things), I quit, and I started again during the divorce, and now smoke minimally. So, I just "know" I will get blamed. It's my influence on the boy. I just let it roll though.

Pam

Pam

The choices we make in thought, word and deed inevitably return to us in kind.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 11:44am
Most of the time I let it roll on by but there is a point when I speak my mind. He hasn't called me yet but I do know that his father is in the hospita. he fell and broke his left wrist and his right elbow so they have all been busy with that. By the time i do hear from him I probably won't say anything thats usually what happens.