Did you change your name after you married?

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Registered: 01-03-2001
Did you change your name after you married?
Mon, 03-03-2014 - 9:03am

Did you change your name after you got married? Did you hyphenate? Did you take his last name or have him take yours? How did you decide on what to do?

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Registered: 11-13-2011
Mon, 03-03-2014 - 5:25pm
I am a traditional girl at heart so I changed my last name to my husbands...no hyphen. It really wasn't a question for me. I love having my husbands last name. I know everyone is different ..I'm looking forward to hearing other people answer this.


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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 03-05-2014 - 7:40am

In my first marriage, I didn't want to change my name, but the family I was marrying into had a FIT, so I hyphenated it.  In my second marriage, I kept my "maiden name," as my husband accepts me as I am...or is it that I have taught him how to treat me?!  I am proud of my family and the history behind it, so I wanted to keep my name.  Plus, I didn't want to alienate my children MORE than I already was.

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Wed, 03-05-2014 - 8:23pm

I gladly took my husband's last name.  It wasn't even something we discussed.  And I never considered hyphenating.  The result would have been very clumsy.  His last name is much easier than mine.  LOL

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Tue, 03-11-2014 - 12:15am
We discussed it extensively and considering him changing his name, hyphenating or inventing a combo name (his first syllable and my last syllable actually make a very cool last name). There was no chance I would change mine as I had to change my first name and that would make me unrecognizable to the inner child in me ;-) He really wanted my name as it is a very nice one and works with his first name. But *my* family is very traditionally and scared him off the idea. My sister was quite vocal about it! Anyway, he chickened out of the name combo thing. He likes the idea of being different (he married me!) but is a bit of a "go with the flow" guy. Dee
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Registered: 01-16-2013
Wed, 03-12-2014 - 11:48am

How interesting. I only know of one woman who kept her maiden name and she did so only because she reluctantly agreed to marry the man she had been living with for 12 years. I hadn't really thought about the loss of identity. Most women I know have either hyphenated or taken their husband's names. I took my husband's because I liked it better anyways.

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Registered: 12-31-2006
Mon, 04-07-2014 - 10:50am

I took his name. It wasn't even a question. I wanted my name to match my kids's name. 

No issue with anyone else keeping their maiden name or hyphenating. Neither were for me though.

When my parents divorced my mom kept dad's name for pretty much the same reason and it made sense to me. I agreed with her logic for finding it useful to have the same last name as her kids.

Yvonne :-)