Alright...What do you do when you're at the breaking point?

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Registered: 10-03-2006
Alright...What do you do when you're at the breaking point?
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Thu, 04-21-2011 - 11:13am

I know I have kind of stopped posting here in favor of facebook instead, but I couldn't think of a better way to get advice from the "veterans" than to come crawling back to DMM :)

Guys...I am really in a funk right now.

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Registered: 01-30-2011
Any chance you can call in sick on a Saturday or Sunday? ;)

A and I went through this went he was on night shift. We would see each other at about 4-5 am and at 4pm if traffic and work were cooperating and I made it home early enough. Eating breakfast together became our thing. He was awake and winding down from work and I was getting ready to go to work. It really sucked so bad bc we were used to being together so much more.

As for "talking", we would leave each other notes on the fridge. We have one of those little white message boards, left over from my college days. He wasn't allowed to have his phone on him at work and had a special number for emergencies.

It definitely wasn't easy and I was singing happy songs when his shift was changed. I guess you can say the moral of the story is to make the best of it as best you can and yes it is survivable.
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Registered: 08-20-2005
I don't really have any specific advice for you, just hugs. Even when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, it's out there somewhere. I like Dana's advice, of just making the best of what you can do, even when it seems like nothing. You may have to start treating it like it's a deployment. Email each other or write each other, just to be communicating, even if you can't have that physical time together like you wish
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Registered: 10-03-2006

Dana - Basically the show that I am doing is a two-person show, and there are only three of us on the team.

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Registered: 10-13-2006

I don't really have any advice. I'm kinda in the same boat with Rob's (and my) schedule. *hugs* Hope it gets better and you can snag a day off WITH Ed soon.

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Registered: 03-26-2003

Aw, I'm really sorry you are dealing with such opposite schedules. That must be so hard to be living like ships passing in the night. I think you've already gotten some good suggestions, so I don't have anything to add. Just know you're not alone. I wish it were easier- mine is a contractor and currently overseas and I am SO sick of the lack of communication, I could cry...and just did. Anyway, hugs to you. It would seem like it should be easier when you are in the same country!

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Registered: 07-28-2005

Hmmm I have to agree that if its a short term light at the end of the tunnel thing, then its fine to continue with what is going on.

Tricia

 

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Registered: 04-21-2006

*Hugs* I know that's what we all need, especially me lol. I'm in the same boat except i'm in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend was recently deployed. It's extremely tough especially since we don't get to see each other often at all. So I feel your pain and just know that we are all here for you and each other and I hope that things will work out for you soon. This message board helps me out a lot and I hope that it will be of

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Registered: 06-04-2007

I am mostly just replying so that you know I wasn't ignoring