completely blindsided

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Registered: 06-25-2009
completely blindsided
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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:23am

So, Last night I checked my email to see if DB had emailed me back. I have been emailing him everyday, writing him letters and talked to him about 2 weeks ago on the phone. well, to my surprise I opened an email from him and all it said was " we are breaking up, enough said. goodbye". I cannot for the life of figure why. I have been nothing but a devoting and loving GF and he just completely blindsides me. I stayed up half the night in tears trying to figure out why and why he had to do it through email. ugh...I am just so upset right now and need some support, but I mainly need closure and answers. I understand people change while they are over there but it is no emotional cake walk over here either. anyway thanks for letting me vent. I know this seems petty but like I said I was completely blindsided and I loved him....I thought he loved me, but I guess that was not the case.


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Registered: 06-04-2007
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:28am
I'm sorry you've been blindsided and are hurting. But, the bottom line is that it doesn't really matter why he broke up with you. Many times, we like to think that if we can figure out why someone doesn't want to continue in a relationship, we can change something to reverse that decision. Most of the time, however, that just doesn't work. He may be dealing with some things that makes him think a relationship isn't a good idea right now -- for you or for him -- or he may have found someone else or distance may not have made the heart grow fonder. It doesn't really matter because, in the end, they are his issues. (Even if he's ending the relationship because of a specific thing you've done, it's his issue if he chooses not to talk it out.) You have let him know that you were in it for the long haul despite the separation, and that's all you can do unless he takes the next step of talking it out (and even then, the relationship may not be fixable). The best thing you can do is to put the ball squarely in his court and move on.
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Registered: 08-24-2009
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:47pm

I'm sorry thats an awful way to break up. Mel pretty much hit it on the nail, like always. I hope that you at least get to talk and work it out or at least get closure on the whole relationship.If not just move on knowing


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 5:13pm
I'm sorry that you got blindsided like that Alyson!

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