How did they do it?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
How did they do it?
Thu, 03-31-2011 - 10:47pm

I've been thinking about all the military women of history, who had no other option than writing letters that took weeks or months to arrive. Trying to make myself feel better, as the internet is down in Afghanistan where my SO is, while they change over some techie stuff. That must have been SO hard. I was out of town on vacation, so we had very limited communication during that time and as soon as I got back, we had one chance to talk, but he overslept and missed his shower the night before due to being sick, so we had to cut it very short so he could make it to work (our window is very small). Naturally, today the internet is down for an undetermined amount of time. So it's been a week since we have had a chance to actually have a conversation (just sporadic texts/emails here and there since 7 days ago. I just can't FATHOM going weeks or months with NOTHING. I know people do what they have to do, but man, that had to be rough. I try not to take for granted what we are able to do. We

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Registered: 07-28-2005
Fri, 04-01-2011 - 9:24am
Yes, you learn to look at it as the "glass is half full" instead of empty. It's just one of the coping mechanisms that we try and fool ourselves with while dealing with separations. Hang in there, I focus on the weekly count down on one day and then forget about it until the next Saturday countdown.

As for the past, when people have to live through emotionally difficult times, they often look back and think, How in the world did I do that? Well we just do by taking it day by day.



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Registered: 08-20-2005
Sun, 04-03-2011 - 1:15am
Another thought is that back then, when all you had was snail mail to hear from them, I feel comfortable saying that MOST of those women waiting at home had known their husband or whatever he was to them at the time for a long time. You didn't go off to college and fall in love, you didn't meet someone on the internet and fall in love, etc. It was most likely somebody that was from the same town as you who ended up in the military after you already knew him, OR you lived in a "military town". And there was also the draft, so *most* of those ladies weren't "choosing" the lifestyle, as a lot of us have that "option"... I use a lot of quotes because obviously none of us literally woke up one morning and decided it'd be a good idea to choose this life, but we did end up in relationships, for the most part, knowing that the guy was in the military and at least a little bit of what that would entail. Does that make sense?

I totally get what you're saying though and I completely agree. It was so different back then, but then again, what wasn't? It does help to think about it though, makes you thankful for what you do have for sure!

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Registered: 01-30-2011
Mon, 04-04-2011 - 1:06pm
I think it all boils down to the fact that women didn't really know any better than. Most houses in America during WWII didn't even have phones yet. It was a luxury that only the richest of the rich could afford. It's harder in this day in age bc we're so used to instant communication via FB, text, phone calls, e-mail, etc. The idea that we have to wait 1-3 weeks for a letter is foreign. Personally, I find it much more gratifying to get letters. The fact that he took time to sit down and write more than a 3-sentence e-mail warms my heart.