I want my fiance back...

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Registered: 08-20-2005
I want my fiance back...
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Sat, 04-16-2011 - 1:06am

Get ready, this is going to be long...

So, you all know about the almost taken job to go to Kuwait for a year and the fight we had about it, trying to understand each other over the whole thing. I was really afraid he was going to resent me for not going. I don't know if we're really at that point or not but a LOT has happened and it just hasn't been a good week. Heck, it hasn't been a good month. And aside from him proposing and my nephew being born, it really truly hasn't been a good YEAR so far.

In January, I wrecked my car (again, you all know this). Had to pay a nearly $200 ticket, file a claim with insurance, and have just now this week gotten my car fixed. My hours at work have been less than fabulous and every time I got hours bumped up, a few of my kids would stop coming for whatever reason. By first week of March I was up to 17 hours a week (25 is considered full time) and thought I'd be reaching full time soon. Then several came off my schedule and now I've been down to 14. Now, if you're at all familiar with any type of pediatric medical occupation, cancellations are common. I've spent many weeks hovering around 10 hours, and then spring break was last week and I only had 3 kids and a new evaluation all week. Needless to say, my paycheck today was TERRIBLE. Not even 1/3 of what I was making every 2 weeks in Texas and Nic is definitely not making what he made with the Army. Now, the good news is, one of the other OTs is leaving and first week of May I will be picking up a lot of the kids on her schedule, putting me above and beyond full time status. Which means I'll be making at least what I made in Texas each paycheck, even if 6 kids (3 per week) cancel each paycheck. It also means I'll be getting a stipend for my medical insurance I pay each month, as well as a stipend to keep my laptop running and up-to-date.

Now, for what's been going on in Nic's world. When he left the Army, it was with the intentions of going to school, North Georgia College & State University: one of 6 senior military colleges where you are guaranteed commission and do not have to compete for it based on grades and performance. The issue is, he took one semester of college courses before joining the Army. Didn't want to be there, was planning to join the Army, and goofed off the entire semester. He nearly failed the 2 classes he was taking and has a really really dreadful GPA. So, he didn't get into North Georgia. Well, by the time he found out he didn't get in and had made decisions about what he wanted to do, the application deadline was past for the college in our town. It used to be a community college but in recent years it has become a state college. So now he feels stuck in this job that he hates and has no idea what he's going to do for school.
As for the job. I really truly deeply hate this company that he works for. First, he is a part time employee with no option of becoming a full time employee and gaining benefits. Yet, he works 40 hours a week, every week, and has for 2 months now. Second, when he started working in January it was without a jacket for his uniform. They were supposed to order one and have it to him by the end of the week, at the very least a loner. He was without a jacket, in teen temperatures, overnight doing foot patrols, for over a month and had to constantly be on somebody's case about getting him a jacket. Now, 3 months later, he still only has a *loner* jacket even though they were supposed to be ordering one for him. Third, he was supposed to have

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-20-2011 - 9:05pm
Sorry I misunderstood! How sad for him and his family though. :( It sure does sound like you both have a lot on your plate, regardless of what is most triggering the stress. I just hate times like that when it feels like you're about to implode. I really hope things turn around soon. I would feel just like you do- worried about him and stressed out.

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