Lonely and slightly jealous

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Registered: 05-08-2011
Lonely and slightly jealous
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Sun, 05-08-2011 - 2:03pm

Hi, I'm new to this board so I guess I'll start with a little introduction.

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Registered: 06-04-2007
Sun, 05-08-2011 - 9:52pm

First, I can understand the isolation you're feeling. When I first came to this board in 2007, I was living with my soldier boyfriend (he became my husband a couple of months later). It was hard because what I dubbed the "wives' club" ostracized me for being "just a girlfriend" while the few other women I knew who were "just" girlfriends also sort of ostracized me because I actually functioned more like a wife than a girlfriend. To add to it all, I was completely immersed in a world I was never sure I wanted to be a part of. I was introduced to the guy by an old college friend with a thing for soldiers. She would only date soldiers, and I was dead set against dating one, much less one that was eight years younger than me! But there I was. One blind date had snowballed into a whirlwind romance, and before I knew it, I was living in a different state trying to figure out how to find common ground with people who didn't seem to want to even know me.

Your situation is a bit different, but it's just as isolating. Wives may snub you because you're "just" a whatever. To an extent, there's a legitimate reason for that. It is




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Registered: 05-08-2011
Mon, 05-09-2011 - 12:37pm

Thank you.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Wed, 05-18-2011 - 11:02pm

Hey Jennifer, welcome! I just wanted to say that I TOTALLY understand what you are going through as