In need of serious advice.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2011
In need of serious advice.
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Mon, 06-13-2011 - 7:06pm

Alright. I will try to wrap this up as short as possible. I am dating a Special Forces Green Beret. We've been talking/together since last october. to add to history we went to high school together.. Most of our relationship has been via online just because he was deployed shortly after we started rekindling our friendship. while in iraq he was amazing to me messaged me nearly everyday and sent me roses and chocolates on valentines day. he was back from iraq early because of some new job in march he flew me out to see him in CO for the weekend before he went to this new training camp in NC. our weekend together was amazing i didn't want to leave.. we had so much fun but since the camp he went to in NC he's been super down and very very short with me and says that the long distance thing pisses him off and i feel like he's pushing me away or trying ot get me to end things he has told me that he thinks i deserve better. His previous gf he had while he was in the military cheated on him and was really shady. I have told him countless number of times i'm not going anywhere unless he doesn't want to be with me anymore and he always tells me thats not the case.. i'm just confused, frustrated and sad.. things were so effortless for us when we was away in iraq but since he has gotten back it's been VERY hard on me.

he gets a leave and is coming home in july

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2011
Thu, 06-16-2011 - 12:56am

Even if it is PTSD, which I'm not saying it isn't as it takes a trained professional to diagnose it, that is still NOT an excuse to push you away and treat you bad. The short temper and the drinking are associated with PTSD so maybe he does have it.