Put down the keyboard and step AWAY from the computer.....

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Registered: 07-28-2005
Put down the keyboard and step AWAY from the computer.....
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Thu, 01-27-2011 - 11:52pm

I have a friend that her husband works for Boy Scouts of America.

Tricia

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2007

What is with people? I mean, seriously.

I've seen far too many people lately actually say things like "I guess I understand what you go through now." Yes, that was an actual comment from a friend who was complaining that her husband had to go on a five day trip for a conference...at some resort...in Florida. My reply was, "Really? I wish I had clue what you were going through right now."

Like you, I understand that people miss their spouses when they're gone for whatever reason and however long. I get it. I don't begrudge them that. But do they not hear how utterly insensitive they sound? It's one thing to say "I miss my husband" or "This working opposite shifts thing is frustrating" occasionally. It's quite another to put yourself in the same boat as people who deal with separation for months on end and often have to worry about what's going on in combat zones.

Yeah, I would have had to walk away from the computer too. I'm spending a lot of time walking away from my computer these days.




iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2005

Are we just getting older?

Tricia

 

Community Leader
Registered: 07-07-2008

I'm with the two of you on that one. DH has applied for a civilian job that would involve business trips and when he told me about it, I was like "and?". I mean, we made it 8.5 months from when he left last year to when he came home for R&R, I think I can handle a week without him. ;) I think he was expecting me to say something else.

I'll miss him just as anyone else does in that situation (if he gets the job), but it's definitely not the same as when they are deployed to a war zone.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-20-2005
I dealt with the same thing when Nic was deployed. One of my friends started dating another friend of mine in August right before Nic PCS'd to Hood. Between his PCS and him deploying, she moved in with my friend. And STILL complained about things to me-"we don't go on our Wednesday night date anymore now that we live together" whine whine whine. She was terrible the whole deployment, not understanding at all that when she came to visit me while I was in Maryland and we went to the beach that I was perfectly content sitting up on a towel and sunbathing/reading while she went into the ocean with her boyfriend, because I hadn't even talked to Nic in nearly a week and didn't want to risk being in the water in case he was able to get online and IM me. Now her BF is some type of law enforcement and is gone a day or two at a time for things (I think it has to do with dog fighting to an extent but I'm not sure) so she DOES understand being worried about him, but still not worried 24/7, unable to get in touch with him, and for more than 24 hours at a time.
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Registered: 10-13-2006

A few months ago my old best friend made a comment about how she understands what work-ups and deployment was like when her boyfriend when to COLLEGE on the other side of the SAME STATE! I was like, dear, it's nothing like it. LOL You get to talk to him everyday, on the phone, see him on the computer, will have NO communication black outs and he comes home AT LEAST twice a month.

I do have to give it to you ladies though, I did have it easier (to me) on the mind with Rob being on a ship vs. being on the ground...

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