totally heartbroken

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totally heartbroken
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Tue, 10-06-2009 - 9:50am

i have read a similar thread here.


my bf was recently deployed.

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Registered: 10-03-2006
Tue, 10-06-2009 - 12:07pm

Hi! I think you'll probably get a lot of similar responses to this, so I'll just give you mine :)

First of all, regarding why he couldn't give you a verbal "no"? It's because he is a coward. Do you think the love of your life should be a coward? I don't. Seems like the going got rough and well, he got going, and that's not the kind of person you want to be with.

I dated "the one" for three years. Our break up devastated me, to the point that I felt suicidal. I couldn't understand how my life would ever go on, and I figured that at the young age of 20, there was no hope left. I can't believe how stupid that was! Three years after not dating anyone, playing the field, and learning TONS about myself, I met my husband, who really, truly IS the one for me, and I never felt so dumb that I'd devoted so much time and emotion to my ex, because he paled in comparison to my husband.

You WILL get through this, and you will meet someone that truly wants and needs to be with you, but this guy doesn't seem to be it, at least not now. *Hugs*, I know it's hard, I've been there! But you will come out stronger, I PROMISE!


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Tue, 10-06-2009 - 12:21pm

Thank you sooo much for your response!


Yah, when I offered friendship it was via IM a couple of days ago.

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Tue, 10-06-2009 - 2:45pm

I have to 100% agree with Erin (though wow, Erin, I didn't know our stories were quite that similar as far as our ex's go..) Same basic story line as Erin (we dated a little over 3 years, had talked seriously about marriage, etc., broke up at 19 and I thought it was going to kill me. I basically stopped eating or doing anything and lost over 30 pounds within 2 months...) and just like Erin I look back now and wonder what I was thinking!

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Tue, 10-06-2009 - 3:55pm

Thank you so much for your reply.


I can't believe your ex just disappeared on you like that.

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Registered: 04-06-2008
Tue, 10-06-2009 - 9:53pm

I'm sorry to hear he did that to you, too...what a piece of crap!!

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Tue, 10-06-2009 - 10:20pm

2 weeks before he got back??

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Tue, 10-06-2009 - 11:01pm

You're welcome. :-)

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 1:39pm

Heather,


On

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 4:29pm

Oh Katie,

BIGGGGGG hugs to you!! I agree 100% with Erin. This guy is a coward. The hard part is realizing that he isn't worth it!
You should stick around here, even if you aren't dating a military man. The support from everyone is great!!



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Registered: 04-06-2008
Wed, 10-07-2009 - 7:33pm

Katie,


While crass and heartless, I see that poster's point. She's right, he's under no obligation to do ANYTHING (even while you were still dating) except to live and breathe.

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