And the off-the-wall, selfish, crazy civilian award goes to...........................

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And the off-the-wall, selfish, crazy civilian award goes to...........................
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Mon, 08-29-2011 - 11:37pm

............a Scout mom from my DH's Boy Scout troop!

You guys are just gonna love this one! While DH was home we had a cookout for about 6 couples so we didn't have to run around visiting. Including kids, this ended up being close to 30 people. DH was the one who chose the "guest list". Other than this cookout, he just called people on the phone. We did no other major socializing while he was home and chose to spend time as a family.

So today I was informed by one of those "guests" that someone we know from the Scout troop totally flipped out that they didn't get to see DH while he was home, they weren't invited to our cookout, and that their son hero-worships DH and should have been able to see him. She of course blames all this on ME. This is not a family we socialize with outside of Scouts.


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My spidey senses are making me feel like that confronting her will be more trouble than it's worth. She seems the type that will not deal with being told to step off in a mature fashion. **eyeroll**

If you didn't like her before, I'd say she put that nail in the coffin now. lol. If she starts to take it out on your kids, then I'd step in. That's unacceptable.
She also seems the type who feeds off of attention. Getting into a pissing match with her will just feed her drama. Don't give her the satisfaction. Taking the high road is easier said than done but it's probably your best bet in this situation. Let her look like the drama queen. If you don't associate with them outside of Scouts and she moved her son, your contact will be limited anyway.

However, I will totally play into your fantasies of punching her in the throat, or someone else doing it. That always seems to happen to people like that, eventually.

DH has been in a similar situation. He had these "friends" of his all pissy during R and R. As soon as DH got off the plane, he came to see me. He didn't call these "friends" until the next day. When he finally did talk to them, instead of "hey how you doing?" he got cursed out. It made me hit the roof b/c who the eff do you THINK you are?

I left it alone. A year or so later, DH was back and they were having a birthday party for one of the "friends'" children. So, the girl comes over and sits on my husband's lap while hitting on him. So then I had to say something. Then, it all blew over. A few months later, DH and another mutual friend were at the bar. They called the "friends" to invite the husband out. This girl had the nerve to say "oh I see your wives finally let you off your leashes." Excuse you? What now?

I knew I'd beat the ever loving crap out of her if I confronted her personally, so I wrote her a scathing email calling her on everything. I even called her out on reading DH's email during deployment. She decided she wanted to flip her mouth off to anyone who would listen. In the meantime, everyone has sort of given her the side-eye and distanced themselves from her. HA HA HA!!

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I'm not completely decided but I will probably let it go. Nothing good can come of it but trust me, the fantasies of beating her to a bloody pulp are quite entertaining. LOL

Sorry you had a similar experience. It's just ridiculous how people think they can claim any part of the precious 14 days of R&R OR get pissed if they don't get any time. IDIOTS!

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People's sense of entitlement is astounding in general, but even more astounding in this situation. If you were really friends, you'd feel a little jilted but be understanding. Oh and I left out the part of the story that AFTER he went back to Iraq, they spread crap about him all over myspace and facebook. Highschool much?
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This could actually become a positive.

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I will be happy not to have to deal with her! My DS and her DS are in the accelerated program together so that might make things a bit sticky. Otherwise, I'm just putting it behind me.

There always seems to be "one of those" in every group/unit. And yes, of course, they can always do a better job than everyone else!

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