Aggressive Sex?

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Registered: 01-17-2005
Aggressive Sex?
Tue, 03-04-2014 - 4:34am

This is quite a personal issue but I am hoping that my fellow military women can help me figure this out and give me some ideas.  My husband is an amazing soldier who loves his country as the next soldier. He has had several tours in Iraq and many other countries as well but Iraq has effected him the most.  Our sex life has always been amazing (we are in out upper 30's)! Always romantic, sensual but we tried new things once and a while to keep things fun and fresh.  I have never complained about anything and it's something we both love so I have always felt blessed. Things have changed and continue to do so almost weekly since he returned back home this past tour. He is EXTREMELY aggressive, wanting to "go places" that we haven't gone before. He wants to take this controlling roll and have me be "submissive", he likes it extremely rough like "out of control animals" and the verbal things he says is quite vulgar and then he wants me to repeat after him!!! He suddenly likes pain..receiving and giving! This is revolved from something so beautiful to something so dark and painful. Can anyone shed some light on this odd behavior? Has anyone been through something similar? I have some ideas but before I talk to him I need some input and reassurance that I am not over reacting. Thanks for listening to my radical sex talk....this is so out of the box for me...