Ack! 1st exp. with base! help!
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|Fri, 04-11-2003 - 3:58pm|
I am having my first experience with trying to communicate with the AFB to set up a move and all that jazz..and I am so nervous.
I called the base a couple weeks ago to ask general questions - talked to the Family Suppt Center, Housing and Transportation just to get general facts so i knew what to expect if it came time for us to mov3e. It got back to my husband's unit that somehow i was trying to MOVE US already and he hadn't graduated yet. So the MTLs were pulling him aside for two days trying to straighten it out. I was so embarrassed but it wasn't MY fault they discombobulated what i said! (they were mad cuz he's in a program with a high washout rate and they thought he was being cocky thinking he would pass or somethign i guess?? NOT EVEN CLOSE TO TRUE!!)
So i haven't talked to ANYONE since. Yesterday his sgts told him to start the paperwork to move... even though he STILL hasn't graduated... becuz it is close enough now that there HAS to be some prior planning. after my first experience OF COURSE i'm leery!
I am SCARED TO DEATH of getting my husband into trouble. I know emails i send to his MTL at the gaining base are getting all the way down to his MTL at his current trainig squadron cuz my husband saw them on his desk! (the gaining MTL called me and asked me to contact him directly with any questions and not mess with any other dept.) The MTL is short with me and doesn't answer all my questions and keeps going back to the assumption that i am trying to move before he graduates.. WHICH IS NOT TRUE.....so i end up having to re-ask them over and over again and keep reassuring them i am NOT trying to move right this second...just follow directions! .
the big question is...am i gonna get him in trouble or call attention to him by asking questions (and having to RE-ask them) ... Should I drop things quick or SHOULD i be a little more assertive about getting questions answered? I know not many men are married in this program and i do NOT want him to be seen as the problem child becuz he is married and there are all these details to attend to.
UGH UGH! I dont know if i should be the tough as nails spouse or the compliant one in order to help my husband succeed...
Thanks for any advice you can give.