A bit upset with dh!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
A bit upset with dh!!
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 9:06am
My dh is stationed in VA on the USS Ronald Reagen and the kids and I are still in CT. He was supposted to come home for Easter(He hasn't been home since Christmas), but says that his cheif and LPO need to take leave more than he does. I understand that their jobs are stressful too, but their families live with them. The kids and I would like to see him. He says he understands that but wants to be fair. Seeing that everyone took leave at Christmas time how would it be unfair for him to take leave for Easter?

Thanks for listening, I really needed to vent.

Kristen

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 9:17am
Kristen

I remember you from my first year here at iVillage on this board. Nice to see you back!

Also I don't understand why they would need to take leave more than your dh. Something just doesn't sit right with me about that. I'd ask him to explain in better detail than "they need it more than I do" because if he didn't even come home for Christmas I'd be a little ticked that he wasn't coming again.

Can you and the kids go down there? I would flat out tell him if he isn't coming home then your coming down there no matter the cost. He has a choice, come home or you come there. No excuses and no backpeddling.

Good luck!

Rose

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 12:29pm
Rose,

He did come home for Christmas, but the fact that he is in the states I think he should come home for Easter too. His cheif and LPO have their families there and will have Easter off anyway, so they don't need to take leave to be with their families. I do understand that their stress level has been high, but we would like to see him.

I didn't think about the kids and I going there. I guess because of money, but that's a great idea.

Thanks

Kristen

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 1:31pm
Kristen,

I would think they would consider his not having his family there a bigger reason to take leave versus them taking it while their families are there. That is cruel and insensitive to me.

I'd really pursue going down there if he refuses to come home.

Hugs

Rose

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:53pm
I agree with Rose. The first thought that came to mind for me was why not go to him.

Good Luck!

Brandie

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:35pm
Oh sweetie, I hope something works out, we don't know at this point if we will be able to see DH that week or not either, I will be crossing my toes for both of us.

Mic

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 7:04pm
I have no idea how Rose knew it was you, but I'm glad it is! How've you been? BTW, I'm popcorn, lol. We've missed you around here, babe.....

Lisa

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 4:13am
LOL Lisa

The clues were there heehee Former recruiter in NY, Kristen, with 4 kids (she had one after leaving us the first time) and Navy heehee

Rose