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Fri, 04-15-2011 - 1:49pm

My mom came to stay with me for the first two weeks of this 4-week section of training Brad is in because it's VERY labor-intensive and time consuming.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Fri, 04-15-2011 - 2:49pm
Hugs, Jess. I'm sorry Brad is so busy right now.

I think it's a great idea for you to go home during this time. It will give you a little break and I know that always helps me when things are stressful.

As for your in-laws, I would stick to your plan. Don't let them guilt you into doing anything you don't want to do. I hate that you even have to stress over this kind of stuff when going home. Just remember, if they have an issue with what you are doing, that's on them. If they don't like it, too bad for them. Don't waste energy worrying about it because eventually, they are going to have to grow up and realize that trying to manipulate you isn't going to work. Lay out your plans and if they want to figure out a way to make it work, great. If not, too bad for them, I guess they will see their grandson some other time.

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 9:55am

So Brad told me this morning that he wants me to go spend 2 or 3 days at his parents' house while I'm home.

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Sun, 04-17-2011 - 5:51pm
There's no way I could do it if DH told me to go spend 2-3 days alone at his mom's. I'm freaking out about going to visit her for less than 24 hours and I'll be with DH!

I get that they want/need to see the baby but I see no reason why you'd have to stay there. Could you go visit them one day and then maybe invite them to lunch another day and meet on neutral ground (I can't remember how far away they live)?

I just hate thinking about you always dreading this part of your trips home. It's not fair that you have to be put in these stressful and anxiety filled situations.

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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 12:25am
I'm sorry you have to deal with that:( I hope things work out for the best and they don't bug you or make your time at home bad.
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