Deployment in Less than a Week

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Registered: 07-11-2009
Deployment in Less than a Week
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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 4:29pm
Hello...I am not new here but I haven't been on in a long time.
I am wondering if anyone can give me some insight as to what a spouse might feel right before a deployment. What is normal behavior, what are the normal feelings that one might experience? This is my first experience with deployment, and I know that some of what I am going through is out of the ordinary for me. I wonder if I am subconsciously pulling away or attempting to detaching myself from him. It's like at times I feel numb, and the other times I get upset over something that isn't as huge of a deal as I think it is. I find myself worrying about things that haven't happened and just being negative in general.
While all of this is going on, my daughter is in the hospital.
I love my husband with everything I am, and right now I can't focus on spending these last few days together.
Please someone give me some guidance
Thank you so much

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Wed, 07-14-2010 - 5:42pm

It's all perfectly normal. A lot of people start to pull away in order to deal with the impending separation. It is a high stress time so a lot of the little things you are getting upset about are just covering up what you are really upset about-him leaving.

I will tell you from experience that the time leading up to the deployment was worse for me than him actually leaving. It is awful to not know what to expect, to have this huge separation looming over your head, to have so much to do and so little time. That last month is just like a crazy roller coaster. Hang in there. You will make it through. Definitely hang out here once he leaves. The ladies do a weekly countdown in the deployment folder and it really helps, I think.

I am sorry about your daughter, also. I hope everything is ok and she gets out of the hospital soon.

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Registered: 07-11-2009
Wed, 07-14-2010 - 6:15pm
Thank you so much. It is extra hard because I spend all day here at the hospital, and drive home(an hour and a half away) in the evening so that I can spend some time with him. We were supposed to be discharged today, but due to an error someone made yesterday..she became worse. I am praying to go home at least tomorrow evening. This will be our last weekend together for awhile.
I have heard a lot of people say,"deployment will make or break you" I will get through this...but I know it will be difficult at times. I worry SO much. I don't know how often we will talk due to the Internet connection...and then it just snowballs from there. I am also not working for the first time since I was 16. I am worried about having one income, but I have no choice. I have to be here for my daughter.

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