DH doesn't have time for me

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Registered: 11-28-2010
DH doesn't have time for me
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Thu, 01-06-2011 - 2:04pm

I am at a loss. DH and I have spent hardly any time together since we got married minus a week together at Christmas that was great. He's either at work or studying - desperately trying to get his masters degree done before his major boards.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 10:46am
Well, I wouldn't pay attention to anyone's negative comments on what you are doing. This is your life and you and your husband have to do what's best for you both. That's really all that matters.

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Registered: 11-28-2010
Tue, 01-25-2011 - 12:00am

No one here assumed it, but several people have already made comments in read life, so I was heading that assumption off before it was made.

Thanks everyone for the support.

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 5:22pm

I hope everything goes well with your move back and that everything works out in the long run. Good luck!

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 4:19pm
I'm glad you have figured out a plan. I hope it works out for you and you can be happier.

And for the record, I don't think anyone was assuming anything about you staying married for the benefits. I only bring it up because the last sentence just kind of sounded hostile and I think everyone here has been very helpful and understanding of your situation.

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Registered: 11-28-2010
Mon, 01-24-2011 - 3:27pm

We've decided that it's best for me to move back temporarily.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Thu, 01-20-2011 - 4:57pm
I've felt that same way before...where I don't see what I'm getting out of sacrificing so much for DH's career. However, my DH definitely finds the time to spend with me and he makes sacrifices of his own to make sure that I have a happy life right now too. It's one thing to put up with military stuff as a team, it's another thing to feel like you are all alone (which is what it sounds like from your posts). If my DH were acting how your DH is and was never making me a priority, I flat out wouldn't put up with it. This life really offers me nothing that makes me happy but my DH makes me happy and that's why it is bearable for me. If your DH is unwilling to work with you so you can be happy, then I'd cut my losses. There are hectic times in everyone's life but you at least need to know that he's trying to make you a priority. From what you said, it doesn't sound like that's the case.

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Registered: 10-22-2008
Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:22pm

I'm going to give you the same piece of advice I give women who are unsure how they're going to be able to handle their first deployment.

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Registered: 11-28-2010
Thu, 01-20-2011 - 3:09pm

All,

He is Air Force.

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 3:32pm

what branch is he? My husband is army & was promoted below the zone to major without having a masters.

Amy

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Registered: 05-18-2006
Thu, 01-13-2011 - 4:35pm

I am sorry you are dealing with this.

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