DH doesn't have time for me

I've felt that same way before...where I don't see what I'm getting out of sacrificing so much for DH's career. However, my DH definitely finds the time to spend with me and he makes sacrifices of his own to make sure that I have a happy life right now too. It's one thing to put up with military stuff as a team, it's another thing to feel like you are all alone (which is what it sounds like from your posts). If my DH were acting how your DH is and was never making me a priority, I flat out wouldn't put up with it. This life really offers me nothing that makes me happy but my DH makes me happy and that's why it is bearable for me. If your DH is unwilling to work with you so you can be happy, then I'd cut my losses. There are hectic times in everyone's life but you at least need to know that he's trying to make you a priority. From what you said, it doesn't sound like that's the case.

I'm glad you have figured out a plan. I hope it works out for you and you can be happier.

And for the record, I don't think anyone was assuming anything about you staying married for the benefits. I only bring it up because the last sentence just kind of sounded hostile and I think everyone here has been very helpful and understanding of your situation.