Don't let me talk myself out of it....m

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Don't let me talk myself out of it....m
Fri, 04-04-2003 - 1:36am
Monday is when summer registration begins and I am so scared to go in and sign up for classes. I have been out of school over 5 years and am so afriad I will fail miserably! So I have been sitting here by myself thinking well DH won't be here to help me and the boys are handful so I will just wait yet another go round of classes. I was supposed to go in the spring and didn't so was determined to do classes this summer just to get my feet wet again! Then I think well the books are going to be expensive.......UGH! I know each semester I put it off the worse it will get. ANd I am also bound and determined to be the first to get at least a two year degree in my family. I had one sister get a four year full ride scholarship and she turned it down because she would have to move an hour away! Then my BIL was going school, but decided to quit since it's too hard to work full time and go to school. Or at least it is for him because he wants a Durango! And his soon to be wife quit ROTC and is not going for the air force scholarship now that would have given her free schooling! And why is it the people that really have no intention of going to school have all the freebies. My friend's dad is a disabled veitnam veteran so she not only gets tuition 100% paid for, but books and then an extra $300-$500 a month (depending on how many classes she takes)just for going to school! Why couldn't I get help like that. I'd have my degree and more if I had that deal! So now i have the whole weekend to sit and talk myself out of going in Monday! I did take the placement tests so that is overwith, but it took me a month to build up the courage to do it. I am just so scared!


the scardey cat in Alaska

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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 6:42am
DO IT. I am 39, have been going to college most of my adult life. I am six credit hours away from my B.S. I would go, then something would come up, moving, having a child, starting a new job. But I stuck with it. For many of the years I attended college, I had a husband (ex) that traveled constantly. I worked a full time job, took care of my son, took care of the house and still managed to go to school. I took classes that started late so that my son would be in bed by the time I left him with the sitter. Though sitting in class at 10:30 at night was killer, I had less "mommy guilt." YOU CAN DO IT!!!! You will find out amazing things about yourself once you broaden your horizons. I am an excellent student (unlike high school). Funny how you can be motivated to get good grades when it's your time and your money!!!
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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 7:31am
GET YOUR BUTT DOWN THERE AND SIGN UP! That's an order! It'll be the BEST thing (aside from your kids) that you'll ever do! I've been in school fulltime for the last two semesters and love it, love it, love it!

I know what you mean about the money thing. I've had to pay for each nickel toward my education. DH had a trust fund from his grandparents. He and I talk about it a lot that he didn't do nearly as well as I have because I knew what was at stake. I knew that *I'd* be the one out the money, not someone else. So it will make you both appreciate school more and work harder at it. I was an average student in high school. I never pushed myself too hard - and in college I'm getting a 3.92 GPA! I had no idea I was this smart, lol! By the way, I've been out of HS for 12 years and will finally have my Associate's Degree in May. So it's never too late!

So get your butt over there on Monday! Good luck to you!

Hugs, Jill

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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 8:00am
Motivation is what gets you thru. I got an AS degree right out of high school and then started working. I always wanted to go back but live happens.( marriage, a child). So we sent my hubby back to school. I went back a couple of years ago (part time) -- when my son was in school full time -- I went to school full time -- well at least for 3 weeks -- Boom -- got hit with Sept. 11th and Op. Enduring Freedom, with hubby gone decided to drop the full time classes and go part time. My intentions are to graduate in May (next year) -- the last year being very challenging. Well I guess my point is -- if you want it bad enough -- you got to not worry about the self-confidence issue and just do it. My suggestion is take a class or 2 to get started and then take more when you prove to yourself that you can do it. When it gets overwhelming -- look at why you are doing this :) Good Luck, Dana
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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 8:22am

I agree with everyone else.. GO! Back in Nov 02 I received my associates. It was the best feeling ever especially being the first in my family to receive a degree. I worked full time and attended full time classes 4 days a week. It was hard but I was really motivated to get it done. Its true that you will appreciate it more and give it 110% when its your money. I had to pay for 75% of my college education only because the company I worked for closed. Now Im also planning on going back to school hopefully this fall and earn my BS i think in Business, not sure yet. I've always loved school and its a lot of fun. You can do it!!!

Best of luck!


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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 9:07am
Go go go register, I know it's scary but once you get into the routine you will learn and grow from it, I KNOW you can do it, us Military Wives are a tough breed. Go girl go !


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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 9:22am
You can do it, Marie! I bet you'd be surprised at how quickly things come back to you once you start a few classes. Like you said, just get your feet wet!

There are some places online that sell used text books. You might want to do a websearch once you find out what you need.

This is probably a dumb question, but have you filled out your financial aid forms? You should be able to get some aid considering you have dependents.

Good luck!!!

:) Melissa