Freaking out has now commenced!!!!

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Freaking out has now commenced!!!!
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 2:55pm
I just called the consolate in Montreal to ask about my visa application and such and learned that not only is there a 8-9 month waiting period for the approval process there is an additional 8-12 months to wait after approval before I'll even get an interview!!!!!!

So now DH and I are frantically refiling stuff and trying to figure out other ways for me to get to the United States. I have no idea how long the new nonimmigrant visa application is going to take to process but at least once I have it and I cross the border I can apply for a work visa but until I cross over I don't even think I can do that. My job is still going to end August 31st and now things are even crazier than they were before! DH is leaving in a matter of days and now this is happening!! Now all of this is going to cost hundreds of dollars in addition to what we have already spent and it doesn't even give me immigrant status. Our other application still has to run its course before I have that...another 15 months or longer before I get conditional permanant resident status! And then an additional 21 months before I can apply for permanent residency and then we can start the fun of citizenship!!! AAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

I have to run to the post office and courier a copy of our marriage certificate to him at the low low cost of $30 so it reaches him by tomorrow.

Susan (Canadian freaking out, in a snow storm, with a head cold, and a husband deploying!!!!!!!!)

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 3:14pm
That really sucks!!!!

Can you not just move there?? I don't understand why theya re giving you such a hasstle when youa re married. It isn't like you are up and moving.

Gosh.. seems like doctors and nurses can up and move down there.. why can't you?

:-(

Bea (who is cold but not snowy)

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 4:31pm
You poor thing. I am so sorry things aren't working out for you. I am sending you hurry up vibes so things get on the ball and get worked out for you quick....Hurry up and feel better, and hopefully the snow strom won't last to long. I am also sending you some sunshine from my state so it will help melt the snow. Hope things go better really quick...{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

Samantha proud Army wife of Mikey (deployed) and mommy to Spots (jaybugs) who has the chickenpox this week.

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 4:39pm
Oh, Bea, it just gets worse and worse for us. I even managed to miss the purolator pick up today so the documents DH needs won't make it to CO until Friday.

Drs and nurses have employment visas. I don't. I'm applying to become a resident of the US and they are making it exceedingly difficult to do so. We didn't even know until today that there would be a wait after my approval before I got the visa and could move. We especially didn't know that it would take an additional year. Our wait for the visa approval has already been increased by 150 days (9months wait) and now this!

So now we have to apply for another kind of visa that will allow me to live in the States. Then after I cross the border I have to apply for a work visa. I have no idea how long the work visa will take and we don't have the money for it to take very long. I just don't know what to do. And I have to move when I get the visa (even the nonimmigrant one) because they have expiry dates.

I am so stressed out now. This is not what I needed right now. It also wrecks havoc on my plans for what I'll do when my job ends in August. I tried to get a hold of the Consulate again but I was on hold for 40 minutes and finally gave up. I have hundreds of questions flying around my mind now.

I just want to curl up in the corner and cry.

Susan

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 4:43pm
(((((HUGE HUGS)))))))

IM me when you can.

CMBelinda is my IM name

Bea

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 5:25pm
So sorry to hear about all of that red tape. Hugs to you for hanging in there and toughing it out!

I don't really know what else to say, I don't know how to make your process any eaiser (wish I did, though).

Just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and hoping for speedy citizenship for you.

Hugs ~ Jami

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 5:42pm
Thanks Jami...the only problem is this is just the beginning. I haven't even applied for citizenship yet. I've only applied for the visa that will allow me to move to the States to live and work as a conditional permanent resident. And at this point the waiting time is 18 months for the interview alone. I just found that out today. After I finally get that status, we have to wait two years for permanent residence status and then after that we can apply for citizenship.

It is becoming a long, tedious and most definitely frustrating experience.

Thanks for all the good thoughts, I appreciate them.

Susan

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 8:28pm
Sheesh. It is absolutely amazing to me that it is so stinkin' difficult for a Canadian to move across the border. It almost seems like you're being punished for doing things LEGALLY.

I remember a friend of mine married a Canadian girl a couple years back and I remember something about once she crossed the border to the U.S. she couldn't go back to Canada for a certain number of months, or something like that? I had no idea that was only the tip of the iceberg.

Is there any consolation in the fact that your DH will be deploying and that you wouldn't have this time with him anyway? I guess not.

I'm sorry this is so difficult. I hope it all comes to pass sooner than projected.

((hugs))

Melissa

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 11:18pm
Thanks so much Melissa. Things are even more complicated too. If I can't apply for a work permit at the same time as this new K-3 nonimmigrant visa there is no way I can move anyhow. I can't stay down in the States waiting on a work permit all that long, there just isn't the money to do that. This is also affecting my ability to go to graduate school so that is frustrating as well.

I hope I can get through to somone at the consulate tomorrow to get some more answers about this new visa. It doesn't replace what we have already done but hopefully if things actually come together (for once!) I will be able to move and work while my immigration visa is being approved.

Okay, I'm heading back to bed. This stupid cold is in my chest now...ugh. I feel miserable and my life is miserable and I never want to get out of bed again!!

Susan (one very unhappy Army wife)

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 11:45pm
What is their freakin deal, you are married to a US citizen, period, there shouldn't be any question of your living here. If you were from some other country, disadvantaged, you would already be living here. RRRRRRRRRRRRRR, this torques me off.

Mic

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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 3:12am
why is it that when a soldier marries a Korean, he can take her back to the states almost immediately? That is just so ridiculous! There must be something. I know this may sound silly, but has Kelly talked to his command about it?

Hope you're doing ok ~ Love, Kel

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