How do I give feedback

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Registered: 04-02-2003
How do I give feedback
Sat, 04-12-2003 - 7:51pm
Ok, so my first social event (see previous post) was a total disaster! It was raining so hard I thought I'd need to swim home. Finally get there and the power is out. They had to go 2 miles to get hot water for the tea (since it was a formal tea, afterall). But, soon I realized that the whole event, rain or shine, would have been awful anyway. The ladies who organized it tried so hard, but really had no idea what they were doing. Most are active duty (although I couldn't tell which ones since they weren't in uniform). They didn't use a microphone so couldn't hear half of what they said. They spent the whole time talking at us while the tea and food got cold or warm (depending on you perspective). They used every acronym imaginable and expected us to follow along. The Chaplain kept trying to get them to understand that they needed to focus on allowing us to get to know one another and not to worry so much about the "paper work" and the administrivia. But they forged ahead with their agenda. He must have gently tried to guide them 4 times at least. About an hour later we were allowed to break for tea by this time I could have eaten the chair. Luckily my girls were just dolls and sat very patiently. I did meet a few women but they live 200 miles away! I drove 50 miles to get there, and they drove 150 miles from the opposite direction. It'll be tough building a community. Ok, I'm done venting.

I believe in constructive feedback and would really like to offer some advice to these ladies that were obviously doing what they thought was in our best interest. I realize there are politics behind the scenes (One person was upset that I was invited by another person and that she didn't get a chance to do it. Not sure what that's about). So I don't know to whom I should direct my advice. There were at least 5 women who spoke each with some level of authority and I didn't catch all their names or "titles"/ranks.

Any advice on how I could proceed? I can also just let it go and not attend any more events.

Thanks for reading this far down. I'm spending the rest of my weekend at a table covered with craft supplies making whatever we (my daughters and I) dream up (after we're done jumping in the puddles which are huge right now).


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 04-13-2003 - 1:21am
I don't have much 'wisdom' on who to offer feedback to since I'm not familiar with your 'command structure' (now if you were talking about a Navy P3 Squadron...I'd be on it...LOL). I just wanted to offer you some support and encouragement to splash really big in those puddles! It's amazing how good that still feels sometimes!!!

Keri - Navy wife in Texas