How do you all manage this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-2010
How do you all manage this?
26
Fri, 03-11-2011 - 4:51pm

DH is PCS'ing.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2006
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 12:23am
I know it's difficult, but like PP's have said, thats just kind of how it goes w/the military. Renting really isn't that bad. You don't have to worry about any of the upkeep, and when something breaks, you don't have to pay to fix it. Renters insurance is cheaper than homeowners insurance, so that's another plus. You can probably get base housing for your new location until you find something you like, or until you sell the other house.
Even though he loses a percentage of his BAH, it's adjusted to the cost of living in that new area. So you might be surpried what you can afford there.
I'm not sure what you mean by him losing his clearance or his job over this...
baby
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2006
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 12:36am
Wow, I wish I had gotten this far down the thread before I made my first "quick reply."

Spouses like you. That's the term you used. I wonder what that means. I think most of us on this board are here because we recognize that military life is difficult, but worth the sacrifices. It's really insulting that you think the rest of us are leaching off the government. It seems to me like many of us have made this sacrifice- the ones you are so unwilling to make. I don't think that's leaching off the government. None of us married our husbands for a fabulous paycheck- that's one thing none of them will ever really have. But that shouldn't have anything to do with your own career. I am college educated, and I have had to change jobs as well. But it's one of the sacrifices I'm willing to make because of our lifestyle.

You are not losing everything. You can sell your house(s), sell the furniture if you don't have room for it. Unless you're insinuating that you won't be able to make your car payments (as far as losing your car), maybe you could just get a cheaper car? I drive around in a 10 yr old jeep with my kids, and we live in a 3-room apartment (about 350 sq ft). And yeah, of course I'd like to have a house. But it doesn't make sense when the military might move us anywhere. Being a part of the military I would consider to be a priviledge. If you obviously don't want any part of it, so you don't have to be. But I'm sure your husband could use the support from you. He's not there to support you financially. He's there to love you and support you emotionally. Money has nothing to do with it. Being a part of the military is about making things work and appreciating what you have. It's about needs, not wants.
baby
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2010
Wed, 03-16-2011 - 6:09pm

Wow, you are obviously NOT looking for a solution to your problem but instead you're looking to insult and demean other people to make yourself feel better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2006
Thu, 03-17-2011 - 11:31am
ktqt07 wrote:

Wow, you are obviously NOT looking for a solution to your problem but instead you're looking to insult and demean other people to make yourself feel better.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2011
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 12:30am

I wanted to read everyone elses posts before I replied, but I got to page three and decided I couldn't wait

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2011
Tue, 03-22-2011 - 3:25pm

I

Pages