Hubby left this morning

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Hubby left this morning
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 2:59pm
Well hubby left. He's in the Coast Guard and they are currently going to do some evaluation and training with the Navy in California. I just found out though (So like a man to tell me the day before they leave) that after this CA thing he's going to school. They only had a few weeks between training and patrol and now that's getting cut in half. I guess it'll be a good test to see if my daughter can handle it. He's now 3 and noticing more and more when he's gone. She started crying last night when we got back to the house from dropping him off (we dropped him off last night cause liberty expired too early and I didn't want to deal with traffic and he had stuff to do before leaving). She wanted us to go back and get daddy and put him in the car. She asked for him a couple times this morning. :-) But at least she's still doing ok with not regressing into peeing all over. The last two times he left that's what she did. Anyways back to what I was talking about. Well he'll go to school and they will fly him to the boat and deposit him there since they'll be on patrol already. I'm kinda worried about whether they even will come back between the training and patrol. With things like they are I just don't know anymore. So I'm trying to expect the unexpected. I got all my crying out yesterday before he left. I laid down on the bed and he came in and I just cried and cried. :-) He lied to me and told me everything would be fine and it made me feel better. I say he lied because he is just as uncertain about what things will be like now since 9/11. But he's a good husband and he made me feel better. Well thanks for letting me spout. You guys are great. And my heart goes out you guys too cause you know how this all feels and I so hate this feeling. God Bless you all.

Hugs,

Kaleolani

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:39pm
Sending you super big hugs

Mic

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 7:14pm
Hey hon - don't worry. He's been trained - or is being trained - to do whatever he's expected to do when he arrives to his new boat.

You'll be okay - and deep down you know that. I hope you hear from him soon so that he can help calm your fears again. He didn't lie to you, he was just doing his best to reassure you - like a very loving husband.

If you have AIM and ever need to chat - IM me at jilljill311.

Thinking of you and DD. Remember, you're not alone in this.

Hugs, Jill

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 9:58pm
I know it has to be tough, but everything is going to be okay. I have only dealt with DH being away once, and that was at basic. He leaves next month for a 3 month school. Your daughter sounds like she is doing pretty well. I hope things continue like that for both of you. We are here if you need us! Big Hugs!

Ashli

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 4:16am
Thanks Jill. :-)

What they are actually doing in CA is being evaluated on their emergency preparedness by the Navy. I know I'll be ok. But you know those first few days are so bad. :-) I drowned myself in ice cream last night. But I'm better today. I got to talk to him because they are still somewhere that they have a signal for the phone. Unfortunately their email satellite's not working so I have to wait till they get to their destination and fix it before he can respond to emails. I told him I'd give him a limited amount of time before I start calling to find out if they are ok. He laughed and said that was a good idea. It's quite a relief though having my sister here. It's much less worrying about her and the extra body in the house is nice. I worried about her a lot living alone with another female roommate in Las Vegas. :-) Well what I actually came on here to say is thank you so much. You and all the other women are very kind and it's nice to know you guys have been through or are going through it too so you know what I'm talking about. But I just wish none of us had to do this. Hugs to you all.

Kaleolani
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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 8:40am
I am so sorry he had to leave. We are thinking of you and praying for a safe return for your dh!

Hugs

Rose

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 12:04pm
Just wanted to add my hugs to those already given.

My Dh has been gone 2 weeks now and I'm still getting used to it, lol!

Thimngs will be fine with you and DD. Mine was 3wks to 4yrs old when her daddy was deployed every 3 mths. As long as your routine stays pretty much the same you should be just great. I'm sure it doesn't feel like it right now but it will all fly by. Before you know it school will be done with too and you can be a family again.

Thinking of you sweetie, Hugs

E-J

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 1:50pm
Kaleolani, super big hugs to you and your DD. I'm sure you both will do just fine with this separation. Don't forget to come here and lean on us if you need to.

Hugs,

Susan

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:28am
Thank you guys sooooo much. We are doing much better. This time around I feel a lot stronger. And when I get down at any time I just remind myself of all the things I have and I start to snap out of it. I'm so happy someone suggested this board to me. You guys are great. Thank you so much.

Hugs to you all,

Kaleolani