I am new to the board wanted to introduce myself

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Registered: 06-03-2011
I am new to the board wanted to introduce myself
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Fri, 06-03-2011 - 6:44pm

Hello everyone my name is Michelle I am a navy wife I have been married 10 years and hubby has been in the navy 10 years. We are stationed at NAS jax in Florida we have been here our whole career. I have 3 boys ages 10, 7 and 3.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Welcome to the board. Please feel free to jump right in with us! It's been a little quiet but hopefully, we'll see more activity soon!

I'm Amy, my DH is in the Army. He's currently deployed right now too.

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Registered: 06-03-2011
thanks for the welcome it will be awesome to connect with other women going through the same things
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Registered: 06-03-2011

I am new to the board as well, and am glad that there is someone else brand new!

My name is Ashleigh and I am currently living in Shreveport, Louisiana with my boyfriend who is in the Air Force. We have a wonderful son who is 9 months old, and in January we received orders to move to Fort Walton, Florida (Hurlburt Field). I am so glad that we have gotten the orders, and can not wait to move! Both of our families are in New Orleans, we were high school sweethearts back in 03-05. Moving to Florida will be a great new start for our new family and really... anything is better than here!

I am not necessarily looking for support because of him being deployed right now, although he will be on TDYs and such often when we move to Fl. I am looking for support in another area, and hope that someone... anyone... can help.

As many of you probably know, deployments and TDYs are not the only thing that can cause hardship for us. The crazy hours, changing of shifts, and exhaustion of our men can cause a whole different level of tension in our homes. My boyfriend has been on "mid-shift" or night shift isnce early January. I will not complain about the occasional switch of shift because that is commonplace. The switches at his base usually only last for no more than four months. This night shift assignment has been going on for 5 months now. It is horrible, and I feel that it is really getting me down. I feel like we are roomates that just share the same room. We do not share meals, we do not share the bed (seriously, the last time that we slept in the bed together for more than 3 hours on a saturday night was almost 2 months ago), and I feel like the short time that we have together every day (from 8pm-9:45pm) is spent talking about important things that we have to handle for the househole (groceries, etc). Our sex life is nonexistant. It was already suffering because I am still adjusting to life after baby, and what it feels like to live in a new body full of stretch marks and the constant goal of losing baby weight, and now I feel even worse because I get no affection from him. I have trouble finding the motivation, or courage, to be the instigator for romance in the short times that we have available,

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Registered: 10-22-2008

To the original poster, welcome to the board!

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Registered: 02-01-2007
Hi Michelle and welcome to the group. I am Jenny and I am also a Navy wife. My husband and I are stationed in upstate NY with our two daughters, Randi, 14 and Hannah, 12. This is shore duty for us and our last command. We are both from Florida and always wished we could be stationed at JAX but unfortunately, his job is not available there. I do have a brother there and he also just deployed.
I hope you will hang around and we will do our best to help you through deployment.



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Registered: 06-05-2011

I am new to the Board and new to the idea of dating military guy.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
antomlinson-

I suggest you copy and paste your post in a new thread so more people will see it!

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Hi spartandawg!

You may want to start a new thread as well. Sometimes people don't read the replies to introduction posts (they just post their hellos). I'd hate for your questions to get lost in the mix.

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Hi Michelle, welcome to the boards. I'm Stacey. My DH is Army National Guard right now. He just transitioned to that from Active Duty. I hope you'll jump right in and post with us. The boards are a little slow, but hopefully they'll pick up soon! I hope this deployment flies by for you!

Hi Ashleigh! I can imagine how hard it is to only get about 2 hours a day to see your SO. That would definitely make it hard. Is there anyway you can adjust your schedule to work with his a little more? I know that's easier said than done, but sometimes it helps. Perhaps trying to arrange a date night would help the two of you. Does he have any days off? Could you find someone to babysit for you so that the two of you could go out? Good luck!

Hi Spartandawg! Just write whatever you want to write to him. As for what's appropriate, it really depends on your relationship so far. Tell him about your day and the things going on in your life. It's okay to tell him you miss him and talk about the things you would like to do when he gets home. Good luck!