I am so depressed

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I am so depressed
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:03pm
My hubby just called and it has been only 5 days and I feel like I am dying. I can't stop crying. My best friend is gone and I am wondering how to cope. Any suggestions?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:19pm
You have got to find something anything to throw yourself into. How abut Cross stich going to the gym...anything to try and occupy your time so that you don't have so much free time to think

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 5:30pm
One day at a time, right now it doesn't feel like it's gonna get any easier, but it will, first let yourself greive, take some mental health days, take a bubble bath, eat ice cream, rent sad movies and bawl your eyes out. In a little while you will start to feel better, then try to get yourself on more of a routine and start making plans for fun things to do on the weekends or your days off. Excercise is a good way to keep your endorphins (your happy hormones) moving ! Everything you are feeling is completely normal. Please do not look at how long it is going to be right now, it will just make it harder on you.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2003 - 7:03pm
Hi there, My dh has been gone for 2 months now

and I do remember the days before he left and the first

few weeks after were awful, then I just kind of got into a routine

and the days go bye really fast. just try to keep really busy. Try

setting a goal to achieve before he comes home. Like I still have ten

pounds of baby weight to lose so that is my goal.

Good luck to you


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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 1:58am
I completely understand. My DH has been gone 3.5 months now. I remember the first couple of weeks were really hard and then it got better. Now I am gettng depressed again, though. This has gone on long enough.
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 1:18pm
It's going to get easier. It's GOT to get easier, right? I mean you can't possibly go through months like this. As each day goes by, you'll fall into a routine... out of necessities sake.

You're going to be o.k. You really are.


:) Melissa

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 1:40pm
I find somedays to be much harder than others. For the most part when things are really bad I let myself cry it out a bit and then I clean. lol It is my stress release. Stupid as it sounds it is true. Some people hit the gym, some read a book, I find the vacuum. lol I also come here a lot. Even with the wonky new board this a great source of strength and support.

But you know, the worst thing you can do is deny how you feel. I'm not saying wallow in misery but acknowledge how you feel, let yourself feel it and then determine the best ways for you to cope with the situation. Heaven knows that there is nothing "normal" about what we are facing these days and as a result we need to find some pretty unusal ways of dealing with it all.