I had to give DH a major pep talk...m
He has always looked at the negative sides of things since i have known him and last night I was so sick of it I just couldn't take it anymore. We were studying for his test that he took this morning and he said he knew he wasn't going to do good. Out of 130 questions he got three wrong!! I was just really irritated, but calmed down while he called work to double check what shift they wanted him to work. So he gets off the phone and says they are fighting over what shift he is on because both supervisors want him on their shift. The swing shift sgt had told DH that he "claimed" him as his staff sgt so the dayshift guys were not getting their hands on him. First off I didn't know you could "claim" anyone, but I guess here each shift supervisor gets to pick one person that is always theirs or something. SO then he says he is tired of not feeling like he knows his job well enough to be wavered a 7 level which they are doing as soon as his test results come back. He named two other guys that he said had been staff sgts a year and were still not 7 levels and he's only been one two months. I said "Now think about this a minute. If they waver everyone as soon as they sew on staff that would mean any idiot could be one. However they are not doing that. they are picking and choosing who they feel is up to the task. Yes most guys have 6 years of service and you only have 4, but doesn't that tell you that they see great potential and really think you are the guy for the job?" Then I said, "None of the guys you worked with in FLorida for three years ever had a bad thing to say about your performance or job knowledge. The air force spent a lot of money to send you to a special engine school that normally you don't even get considered for until you are a staff sgt and you were barely an Senior airmen when you went. You were selected to deploy first when the commander said I want the very best you've got. You recieved an Air Force Achievment medal and on the written part it says you were selected by your supperours (sp?) to go get that broken plane and get it in the air so it didn't miss any combat hours. And it never missed one mission. You scored second highest in your career field when you tested for staff sgt. It's not a knowledge problem it's a confidence problem and you are not giving yourslef the credit you deserve. You are being too hard on yourself making it impossible to be confident" There was not one thing he could counter with a negative comment and he sat and thought for a while about it. Then he said he knew I was right and he went into the test today happy and didn't say one negative thing about it.
I also gave him a choice between fixing up his mustang or getting a 4 wheeler. He said the mustang has always been his dream and the 4 wheeler would only be a temporary fix. So we are picking out paint colors and hopefully getting a new cobra wing ordered and maybe some new carpet. The next time we go home we will take a month off so he can work on the car with his best friend who is also my BIL. He has the car stored in his garage for us and is doing some body work.
So I think things will calm down around here until he deploys this summer. So that is my update and hopefully i will get to post more. We have dial up so it's slow moving and I am still getting used to this new look. It's growing on me though. Have a great Wednesday.
AF wife and SAHM in Alaska