i'm the girlfriend

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Registered: 07-24-2011
i'm the girlfriend
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Tue, 08-23-2011 - 12:58am

Hey everyone!

Thought I would browse through here and see what it's all about. I recently got in to a relationship with the best man ever! I'm 21, he's 23 and we've known each other for 9 years. The thing is is he's all about joining the army. He's been working out to meet the weight requirement to join at the moment. The reason I'm here is because I haven't ever had to deal with any military association at all. I'm already thinking of the day he gets to leave for boot camp and my heart gets sad. It's been his number one goal for as long as I can remember and I'm by no means wanting him to stay just because I'll miss him. Sure it would be nice for him to stay, but it's his dream. What I guess I'm getting

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Registered: 08-23-2011
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 3:18am

I'm very new to this as well and also in your age group. I think that I am going to need a counselor to talk to in order to stop being so sad every time I think about my boyfriend leaving. So, I think a counselor or therapy may help you as well, even though it may be as new to you as it is for me. Also, I find working out and doing things on my free time that I love doing such as listening to music and playing guitar or drawing, helps keep the thought of him leaving off my mind. Hope this helps !

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 08-23-2011 - 10:01am
Welcome to the board.

I think the most important thing to remember is that although of course you love him and you'll miss him, you are still your own person with your interests, likes, desires, etc. You focus on those things and do what you can do to make yourself happy.

On top of that, write him letters during basic. Keep a journal of how you are feeling if that helps. Know that the time apart is only temporary.

The first few days will be really hard because you will miss him like crazy and you will have to get in a new routine and you won't really know what to expect. As time passes, though, you will adjust and then, before you know it, you'll be getting ready for him to come home.

Good luck to him on making the weight requirements and on the whole process.

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Registered: 07-24-2011
Wed, 08-24-2011 - 3:30am
thank you! I recently started working out again. I have been joining him in the gym as he's getting in shape to sign up. And I love music...this is very reassuring, thank you :)
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Registered: 03-25-2010
Sat, 08-27-2011 - 7:48pm

I'm new to all of this as well. And by all means, i need a support group! I'm driving myself crazy worrying about him. I started dating my soldier a couple of months ago, and he left in june for Iraq. While in Kuwait waiting to go to Iraq, he could talk to me anytime he wanted all day everyday. Now he's in Taji, Iraq, and can hardly talk at all!! He's not worried at all -- it's his second deployment. Last time