I'm new

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Registered: 04-03-2003
I'm new
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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 12:34pm
Hi everyone!

I am not a military wife yet, but will be after 4/5! I'm flying out to San Diego from RI to get married. Not my first choice for a wedding, but I'll take anything at this point in time. So I think my civil wedding in 2 days qualifies me to post a message on this board. It's been really nice to read all that everyone has written. In a way it is uplifting to know that we're all in this together.

David was deployed in December. He was a reservist. And like many wives of reservists, I'm really new to this military culture as this is my first deployment experience. I take each day at a time. Every night before tucking in, I pat myself on the back and remind myself that I made it and tomorrow is another day. For now David is in SD, but we're not sure where he will be shipped out to in August. If not for love, I don't think I could do this.

David will be deployed for 24 months, if not 48 as his orders say. But I think the 48 months isn't anything to be worried about... or so I am told by other reservist wives. Is that true? A part of me refuses to think about the 24 months all at once, choosing to take each day at a time instead. But when I get blue, I can't help but think of it as 24 months. It's a darn long time to be apart. And sometimes I get angry with the military for even imposing this on families. Those are the times when I tell myself to get a grip.

I just want to say that I admire all you military wives out there. I admire your strength and unconditional love. And I am proud to be a part of this culture.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: laosgood
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 12:49pm
Welcome to the board! You have such a fantastic attitude! You're going to be a great source of support here on the board.

I hope you'll stick around and post often.

Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming wedding. You really ARE part of the culture! LOL. Tons of us have had civil weddings before the "real" one only to say to ourselves, "Hmmmm... not exactly what I planned for my life, but what can you do?" LOL.

:) Melissa, army wife in TX

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: laosgood
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 1:10pm
Welcome to the board! You can post here even if you're not a spouse! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! That is wonderful and I wish you many years of happiness.

I am Rosemary, an Army wife of 15 years and Mom of 2 dd's ages 12 and 9. We are currently stationed in Germany.

Hope to see you around often!

rosemary

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: laosgood
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 2:02pm
Welcome to the board and congratulations on the wedding in two days. We are all here for support, and laughs. Some days it seems the world is dark then I get on here and someone always has a joke or a funny moment. I thank the lord everyday for these women giving me the strength to carry on. I hope to see you post here often.

Samantha proud Army wife to Mikey (iraq) and mommy to Jacob 7 months old.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: laosgood
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 8:06pm
Welcome to the board and congratulations on your upcoming marriage!! Hopefully things will settle down and your husband will not be gone for as long as his orders say.

Huge hugs and again welcome,

Susan (proud Army wife)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: laosgood
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 8:13pm
Welcome! And congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I bet you're getting very excited! Hopefully you'll find this board as wonderful & helpful as I have! This is a great place to post all your happy silly moments during the day & a great place to turn to when you need some extra comfort from women who know exactly what you're going through! Hope to get to know you better & see you posting often!

Jenn, NC hooah wife to Tim, Korea mom to 2 'perfect angels' (ha!)

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Registered: 03-29-2003
In reply to: laosgood
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 8:55pm
Just want you to know that I am new also, whether it be to the military lifestyle, to a wife, to being a new mom. I hope you and I can get to know one another better and work through this new experience together. Best of luck and congrats on the marriage.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: laosgood
Thu, 04-03-2003 - 10:47pm
About the 48 months, I have been told, although never seen it in writing that they longest they can give a reservist active duty orders is for 2 years, that's not to say they can't release them and then REactivate them a day later. That's how DH explains it to me, but in times of war things could all change I suppose. My Dh is Air National Guard and like you I am on the learn as you go plan. He got activated 17 months ago and it's been a long time, but until recently he was able to get home on 2 or 3 weekends a month, but no more. Oh and we have several women from the dating a military man that pop over here and there, so you are of course ALWAYS welcome here. (and there too !) So anyways, I am Mic/seamour, we live in MN, I am a SAHM with 3 wonderful (subject to change) kids, 16, 8 and 4.

Glad you found us, post lots, we are all just getting used to this new board format so be patient with us.

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