I'm new, just wanted to say hi

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I'm new, just wanted to say hi
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 1:06am

I'm new to this site.My husband just joined active duty army after being in the national guard for four years (I am also in the guard, that how we met!!).Well, he was supposed to change his MOS from chemical to infantry and go back to AIT at Ft. Benning and then in three months we were going to be stationed at Ft.Lewis.Well, the day he was supposed to ship out they decided to tell him that not only would he be going back to AIT but also back to basic (nice time to tell him, huh!!) And, as anyone in the army would agree, once you've been to basic, you never want to go back!!!! Well, he bitched and renegotiated his contract and instead of going to Ft.Lewis, he was sent to Germany.Well, I have no complaints there! He's been gone about a month and I have yet to be sent out there, which is to be expected.We are sixth on the waiting list and he is currently looking for an apartment off base to get me there quickly.Well, since we had absolutely no notice that we were going overseas he was not able to get any of our business handled.Our stuff in in storage already as we had already planned for me to stay with my parents before we move to Washington, but now I have to get this stuff overseas.Our stuff is in another state and I just sold my car so I have no idea how to go get our stuff, nor any idea how I go about doing anything pertaining to moving overseas.It really sucks, because I can't get a hold of him.He doesn't have a phone so I have to wait for him to get a phone card.To make it more frustrating we just got our tax return and I wrote out a bunch of checks to pay off some debts that we had.I told him this yesterday and let him know how much he can spend seeing that he needed some things.Well, when I checked our account tonight he didn't listen to me and spent everything!!! Now, all of our checks will bounce.I feel like I'm going to scream!!! Sorry this is such a long post, but I really need to vent about some things and I know that a lot of you are in the same position.I just hate not knowing whats going on or being able to get ahold of my husband!!!! Thanks for listening.


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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 3:51am
Oh my goodness Brooke. You do have it bad don't you. I'm so sorry things are blowing up in your face right now. I know all about a husband not listening to you about not taking the money out of the account. I had that problem with my husband once. I bounced two checks and nearly killed him. He now has to ask me for an amount that he can take out. I hate that it sounds like I'm treating him like a kid but damn when you make checks for bills bounce I think you need a beating like a kid. As for your moving I'm not sure about the Army. I've moved only with the Coast Guard. But a couple of times they had to get our stuff out of storage and pack it into the containers for us. I think if you can get to the storage unit they can take it directly from there. I hope your hubby can find a place for you to stay in soon. Once you get settled and have had a chance to tan his hide I think things will start to look better. Good luck to you and welcome to the board. I've found it very helpful and the women are just loads of fun to talk to. Hugs to you.

Kaleolani, Coast Guard wife and mom

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 4:14am
Hi Brooke,

I don't have much advice but hopefully you'll be able to get it all worked out. Germany is an interesting place to live right now. I live here and it has changed so much since we first arrived. We are in our 3rd year here come June. We'll be here maybe until June.

Good luck with your move. I do know when he request for your household goods and storage items to be shipped then they'll go to the address that it is located in.


Rosemary, Army Wife of 15 years, Mom to 2 dd's

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 7:14am
ACK!!! That is definitely not good (money situation). My husband is in Germany, too. We talk every day, and I will tell you how. He bought a prepaid cell phone for 70 euro, so has no contract, and has never had to buy time for it, because as long as the calls are incoming to him, or if he dials an 800 number, he doesn't use any minutes. Well we have a phone card from Sam's club that is only 10 cents a minute for me to call him. (20 cents for him to call me.) So maybe the next time you talk to him you could talk about that. So for $70 plus fairly cheap calling time we can talk anytime, and I can get a hold of him anytime.

Do you have a power of attorney yet? You should get one right away. And maybe if he got a separate account, and you two split the money however deemed necessary, that would solve some problems about the money. I don't know, just making some suggestions.

I hope all works out for you, and WELCOME TO THE BOARD!!! I hope you stick around and post often!


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Registered: 03-21-2003
Sun, 03-30-2003 - 8:18am
Welcome to the board, Brooke, and huge hugs! I'm sorry that things it ya all at once. I don't have a lot of advice, and the gals who've answered have given you some good suggestions.

I agree with them, whenever the request for shipping, moving comes in, they'll go to the site. They'll only go to one site, so if it's all in the storage, that's where they'll go. You'll just have to be able to get there to open the unit for them (heehee)

As for your dh and finances, you'll definitely have to talk with him whenever you get a chance. Huge hugs, and hope it all works out.

We hope to see you posting more, so we can get to know you better!

I'm Chris, army wife to Troy (Korea) sahm to 3 in SC, for now!


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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 9:16am
Wecome Brooke! Sounds like you definitely have your hands full right now! Maybe they (the Army) can pick up your stuff for you from the other state, that way you don't have to worry about finding a way to get it. And if it's going to be a while before you can get to Germany I would suggest seperate accounts for your money! That way your husband has a certain amount that he can spend & you will know that he's not out spending bill money! It has been a life saver for me! Don't know about your husband, but money burns a hole in my husbands pocket! He tends to forget that we have bills to pay & just sees money to go play with! The ladies on this board are awesome! They've just changed the format of our boards & we're still all getting used to it so we may be a little slow to respond, but it's only cause we're lost in the board somewhere! LOL Hope to see you posting often!

Jenn, NC Army wife to Tim, Korea

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 10:38am
I know that you'll get everything sorted out once you talk to your TMO. I just wanted to welcome you to the board!

:) melissa

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 11:47am
Oh wow!!! Well I don't know where ot start or how. But welcome to the board. I've been married to my dh for going on two years but I am not in your shoes. I can say I feel for you. I hope things start to get better for you. I hope to see you post more often.

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 1:14pm
Welcome Brooke. I'm glad you found us. There are a couple of ladies living in Germany and at least one waiting to go so you''ll have some support there. I am sorry about the tax money fiasco that must be extremely frustrating and stressful.

I look forward to learning more about you. Hugs,

Susan (Army wife)

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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 1:43pm
Ah Brooke, what a situation to be in ! I also would love to go to Germany BUT you had no preparation for this and are gonna lots to do before you head over there. I am so sorry you DH spent the tax money, that's been a recurring theme on this board from a few other's, I am sure they will sympathize with you. Also there's another wife here that's waiting to head over to Germany, they are on the waiting list too. Hang in there.


proud wife of a deployed ANG and SAHM to 3.