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|Mon, 11-08-2010 - 12:46pm|
Here's the background of what my 'boyfriend' and I are going through.
We met in Florida when he was in training. We started dating and we both knew he'd be leaving shortly due to training being finished soon and we wanted to see if a relationship could work, so we moved in together within about 3 months. A great 6 months went by and we packed up and moved to Virginia due to him being stationed there. We had some issues once we got there because I was stressed about being away from my family, keeping up with school and trying to find a job. I left to go back to Florida for a few weeks and came back to Virginia. Everything was great for awhile, he deployed for 6 months, everything was still great and then he came home and more problems started.
My issues have always been not being able to communicate properly and getting pissy when I don't get my way. I've also always been very jealous even though he's never done anything to hurt me. He's not a jerk, he doesn't chase after other women..He's a decent guy.
His issues are that he's still very young mentally (we're 22 and 23) and has a hard time being a partner and sharing a life..He's not irresponsible, but he is very childish. Doesn't like to pick up after himself, doesn't like to clean, mostly the average young-guy stuff..
We came to the conclusion that living together was more painful than happy..It made him unhappy to come home and his selfishness drove me crazy.
We are a great team and love each other very much. Both of us want 100% what the other person has..we agree on kids, marriage, religion, politics, all of it. He seems to think that we moved in together too soon, even though we were both happy to have experienced everything that we did. He wants to continue to date and spend time together and see if we can start over and do what we didn't really get a chance to do in the beginning.
There's not another girl, he doesn't want to see other people, and isn't too wild about me seeing other people..He just wants a chance for us to mature and be happy together, instead of play house and be at each others throat...FOR NOW. He wants to marry me, have babies, get out of the military..all of this with me..I just don't know how I feel about it.
We have been together for 2.5 years.
What are some opinions of this situation? What what little information I've provided, is there hope for salvaging this relationship down the road?