looking for a sign:)

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Registered: 05-12-2011
looking for a sign:)
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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 12:55am

hello girls ...i want to tell you my story....i have fallen in love with rambo!!!

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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 11:48am
Is there anything in particular you'd like answered?

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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 12:48pm
Welcome to the boards. If there are specific things you are wondering about, it's easier to help that way than just in general. Do you already know which base you would be at?

I married my DH when my DS was 7 and moved halfway across the country to join him where he was at. Since that move, we've moved to two other states, that was all within the past 3 years. My DS has adjusted very well each time and loves having a father. (He doesn't know his biological father at all.)

Good luck and if you have any specific questions, we'd be happy to answer them.
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Fri, 05-13-2011 - 6:50am

Words of advice from a military vet/wife of a retired AF Man and mom to an AF daughter ---- PATIENCE!



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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 10:46am

Sorry girls ....

I wrote that post with about a million things on my mind....and I apologize I wasn't specific:/

we are not sure were he is moving just yet...he will be telling his unit about his sudden interest

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 11:20am
Every job out there has certain drawbacks and the military is no different. At the end of the day, when my husband comes through the door at night, he's just my husband. The military doesn't factor in at all. We've always looked at the military as a job, not a lifestyle.

With that said, there are plenty of headaches that the military causes, but you learn to deal with them and, pretty soon, it becomes "normal" to you! :D

The hardest part to adjust to is moving to areas you may not want to live. We've had a couple of places we've loved and a couple of places we've hated. It's hard when you hate where you live and you know there is nothing you can do about it.

Also, it's hard to adjust to knowing your DH is basically always on call. There have been numerous times where DH will get home at night only to have to go back in to deal with something. If you have a weekend planned and something comes up, you have to reschedule. DH has even been called to come in when he was on leave!

Deployments are going to happen. He's going to go to the field. He's going to be TDY. He's going to have to go to schools. You have to get used to him being gone.

I don't hide the fact that I'm not a fan of military life. I put up with it because that's what my husband wants to do right now. But, I do appreciate it for what it has given us. When all of this ends, I will look back and only see the good things that have come from it and I know I wouldn't change it. It's hard to see those good things when your husband gets a call at 3AM that he needs to come in though... ;)

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 7:40pm
I would absolutely do it all again, in a heartbeat! The only advice I really have about doing things the "best way" would be to be flexible. A lot can and will happen. If you makes plans and feel you have to stick to everything the way it was planned, you will find yourself stressed out a lot (from my experience).