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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 10:03am

Here's my story:

My mom was extremely desperate to get me out of my current relationship. I was not happy and she knew it. She decided to introduce me to a friend's son. I met him and tried to not "notice" how great he was, since I was with someone and that's a big no no. I knew he was just visiting and he would be leaving soon which made it easier to just look passed him.

After a few weeks, things continued to go downhill with my current boyfriend and I ended up talking to this guy a lot. Nothing out of line and no cheating, just friendly conversation. My Boyfriend and I broke up and it turns out that this man was coming back to town because he had leave coming up. We continued to talk constantly, day and night.

He got into town on the 30th of June. I met him once he got here and it was an instant reassurance to the connection I thought we would have. From the time he got here until the time he left, we spent no time apart (accept when he was training). I have never felt so great with someone before. Everything just came naturally. There were no awkward moments at all. He even took me on a romantic sunset cruise at a beautiful beach a few hours away on a secret beach trip he had planned for us. I was swept off my feet.

He left Tuesday to go back to base. I have never been heartbroken and in love at the same time. He wants to continue building something from us and neither of us knows where it will go but the feeling is mutual that we are crazy about each other.

Now that I am an "Army Girlfriend" I am not sure what to do... Any help with trying to cope with him being gone or advice?

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Registered: 05-03-2010
In reply to: haleydm
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 10:35am

If it's meant to be it'll work out, that's my advice, my husband and I were a long distance couple for about 6 months before we got married. He was so great and I just "knew" we would be together.

As for dealing with the challenges of being an "Army" girlfriend, there is a board, I think it's called "Dating a Military Man" that can probably help you with the sorting out your new relationship.

My relationship with DH moved VERY fast, but somehow I knew that it was right for us, I'm not recommending it for other people and if you're just recently out of another relationship, my advice is not to rush this one.

Best of luck to you

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In reply to: haleydm
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 10:54am

I agree to just take it as it comes. You just got out of a relationship, you've spent just a little time with him...don't rush anything. It will happen as it happens.

As for the "army" part of it, I don't think you have to do anything different. You may have to deal with some separation but you will learn how to best cope with that with time.

Here is the link to the Dating a Military Man board. They may be able to offer more insight. Most of us here are married and it's been a while since I was dating someone!!

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlmildating

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